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How Trauma Changes the Brain: What You Need to Know

Trauma, whether it’s from a physical injury or an emotional experience, can have a lasting impact on the brain. Thanks to research in neuroscience, we now know that trauma doesn’t just affect how we feel—it actually changes how the brain works. Understanding these changes can help us see why trauma has such powerful effects and how recovery is possible.

What Happens to the Brain During Trauma?

When you go through a traumatic event, your brain switches into “survival mode.” This is controlled by something called the stress response system, which prepares your body to deal with danger. You may have heard of the “fight, flight, or freeze” response. This is when stress hormones like cortisol and adrenaline flood your body, helping you react quickly to protect yourself.

This response is helpful in the short term, like when you need to escape danger. But if trauma is ongoing, or if your brain keeps thinking you’re in danger even after the threat is gone, this stress response can do more harm than good.

How Trauma Changes the Brain

Trauma can change how different parts of the brain work and even how they look. Here are the three key areas affected:

1. The Amygdala: The Alarm System

The amygdala is the part of your brain that helps detect threats and process emotions like fear. After trauma, the amygdala can become overactive, making you feel on edge or jumpy even when you’re safe. This is why people who’ve experienced trauma often feel anxious or have trouble calming down.

2. The Prefrontal Cortex: The Decision Maker

The prefrontal cortex is like the brain’s “control center.” It helps you think logically, make decisions, and calm down after a stressful event. Trauma can make this part of the brain less active, which means it’s harder to think clearly, control your emotions, or feel in control of your reactions.

3. The Hippocampus: The Memory Keeper

The hippocampus is responsible for organizing memories and distinguishing between the past and the present. Trauma can make the hippocampus shrink, which is why some people have trouble remembering details of the trauma or feel like they’re reliving it (flashbacks), even when it’s over.

Why Do These Changes Matter?

The changes in the brain after trauma explain many of the symptoms people experience, such as:

• Flashbacks or nightmares: The brain struggles to tell the difference between past and present, so it feels like the trauma is happening again.

• Anxiety or hypervigilance: The overactive amygdala keeps you constantly on the lookout for danger.

• Difficulty focusing or making decisions: A less active prefrontal cortex makes it harder to think clearly.

These changes also show why trauma doesn’t just “go away” on its own—your brain needs time and support to heal.

Can the Brain Heal After Trauma?

The good news is that the brain is adaptable. This ability to change and heal is called neuroplasticity. With the right support, the brain can recover from the effects of trauma. Here’s how:

1. Therapy: Treatments like trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) and eye movement desensitization and reprocessing (EMDR) can help “rewire” the brain and reduce symptoms.

2. Mindfulness and relaxation techniques: Practices like meditation can help calm the amygdala and strengthen the prefrontal cortex.

3. Exercise: Physical activity can increase the size of the hippocampus and improve mood by releasing feel-good chemicals like endorphins.

Trauma changes the brain, but these changes don’t have to be permanent. Understanding how trauma affects the brain can help us be more compassionate toward ourselves and others who are struggling. With the right tools and support, healing is not only possible—it’s likely.

This article has been written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years experience in the social work field. He currently serves as the executive director in outpatient behavioral health therapist at Southeast Kentucky Behavioral health based out of London Kentucky. He may be reached by phone at 606-657-0532 extension 101 or by email at [email protected]

References

• Shin, L. M., Rauch, S. L., & Pitman, R. K. (2006). Amygdala, medial prefrontal cortex, and hippocampal function in PTSD. Annals of the New York Academy of Sciences, 1071(1), 67-79.

• Bremner, J. D. (2006). Traumatic stress: Effects on the brain. Dialogues in Clinical Neuroscience, 8(4), 445-461.

• van der Kolk, B. A. (2014). The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma.

Effective Strategies to Calm the Mind and Improve Sleep Quality

Struggling to fall asleep because your mind is racing? Relaxing at night can be a challenge, but there are practical steps you can take to help your brain wind down and get better sleep. Let’s dive into the specifics for each method.

1. Set a Sleep Schedule

Steps:

  1. Pick consistent times: Choose a bedtime and wake-up time that you can stick to daily, even on weekends.
  2. Gradually adjust: If your current schedule is off, shift your bedtime or wake-up time by 15–30 minutes each day until you reach your goal.
  3. Wake up at the same time every day: Even if you had a rough night, getting up at the same time helps set your internal clock.
  4. Avoid long naps: Keep naps under 30 minutes and avoid them after 3 PM to avoid disrupting your nighttime sleep.

2. Unwind with Relaxation Techniques

Steps:

  • Deep Breathing:
    1. Sit or lie in a comfortable position.
    2. Breathe in slowly through your nose for 4 seconds.
    3. Hold your breath for 4 seconds.
    4. Exhale through your mouth for 4 seconds.
    5. Repeat this cycle 5–10 times, focusing on the sensation of your breath.
  • Progressive Muscle Relaxation:
    1. Lie down in bed or sit in a quiet space.
    2. Start with your feet. Tighten the muscles for 5 seconds, then relax them.
    3. Move up to your calves, thighs, stomach, arms, shoulders, and neck, tightening and releasing each muscle group.
    4. Focus on the feeling of relaxation spreading through your body.

3. Cut Back on Screen Time Before Bed

Steps:

  1. Set a timer: Use your phone to remind yourself to stop screen time 30–60 minutes before bed.
  2. Create an alternative activity: Replace screen time with reading, journaling, or listening to a podcast.
  3. Use night mode: If you need to use your phone, turn on night mode to reduce blue light.
  4. Charge your phone outside your bedroom: If possible, leave your phone in another room to avoid late-night scrolling.

4. Build a Relaxing Bedtime Routine

Steps:

  1. Set a schedule: Pick 2–3 calming activities to do in the same order every night.
    • Example: Take a shower, read for 15 minutes, and listen to soothing music.
  2. Limit stimulating activities: Avoid anything that gets your heart racing, like intense exercise or watching suspenseful shows.
  3. Try journaling:
    • Write down three things you’re grateful for.
    • Make a to-do list for tomorrow to clear your mind.
  4. Experiment with aromatherapy: Use lavender-scented candles or essential oils to create a calming atmosphere.

5. Make Your Room a Sleep Sanctuary

Steps:

  1. Control the temperature: Keep your room cool, ideally between 60–67°F (15–19°C).
  2. Block light: Use blackout curtains or wear an eye mask.
  3. Minimize noise: Use earplugs or a white noise machine if your environment is noisy.
  4. Declutter your space: A tidy room can help your mind feel more at ease.
  5. Invest in quality bedding: Choose a comfortable mattress, pillows, and breathable sheets.

6. Avoid Late-Night Caffeine and Heavy Meals

Steps:

  1. Limit caffeine: Avoid coffee, energy drinks, or soda after 2 PM.
  2. Eat light in the evening: Have a lighter dinner and avoid fatty or spicy foods close to bedtime.
  3. Try sleep-friendly snacks:
    • A banana with peanut butter.
    • A small bowl of oatmeal.
    • A glass of warm milk.
  4. Stay hydrated: Drink enough water during the day but limit fluids an hour before bed to avoid waking up at night.

7. Write Down Your Worries

Steps:

  1. Grab a notebook: Keep a journal or notebook near your bed.
  2. Dump your thoughts: Write down anything that’s bothering you or what you need to do tomorrow.
    • Example: “I’m stressed about the presentation tomorrow. I’ll review my notes at lunch.”
  3. Focus on positives: End with 1–3 things you’re grateful for, like a supportive friend or a good meal.
  4. Leave it behind: Once it’s on paper, tell yourself it’s out of your head until tomorrow.

8. Try Guided Meditation or Sleep Apps

Steps:

  1. Download an app: Popular options include Calm, Headspace, or Insight Timer.
  2. Choose a bedtime program: Look for meditations, sleep stories, or white noise.
  3. Use headphones if needed: If others in your house are noisy, headphones can help you focus.
  4. Stick with it: Meditation can take practice. Start with 5–10 minutes and increase as you get more comfortable.

Final Thoughts

These methods aren’t one-size-fits-all. Try out different strategies and stick with the ones that work for you. Creating a calming nighttime routine and a sleep-friendly environment can make a huge difference. Over time, these steps will train your brain to wind down more easily, helping you fall asleep faster and wake up feeling refreshed. Sleep is essential—make it a priority!

This article has been written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years of experience in the social work field. He currently serves as the Executive Director and Outpatient Behavioral Health Therapist through Southeast Kentucky Behavioral Health in London Kentucky. John may be reached at (606) 657-0532 extension 101 or by email at [email protected].

References

  • Clark, I., & Landolt, H. P. (2016). Caffeine, sleep, and wakefulness: Implications of new understanding of adenosine receptor function and homeostatic sleep regulation. Advances in Nutrition, 7(5), 942-949.
  • Dickinson, D. L., & Drummond, S. P. (2018). The effect of gratitude journaling on sleep quality: A randomized controlled trial. Behavioral Sleep Medicine, 16(3), 199-207.
  • Gaines, J., Vgontzas, A. N., Fernandez-Mendoza, J., et al. (2017). Consistency of sleep patterns and chronic insomnia. Sleep Medicine, 37, 29-36.
  • Heath, M., Sutherland, C., Bartel, K., et al. (2020). The role of blue light in affecting sleep. Nature and Science of Sleep, 12, 123-133.
  • Rusch, H. L., Rosario, M., Levison, L. M., et al. (2018). The effect of mindfulness meditation on pre-sleep arousal and insomnia. Journal of Clinical Psychology, 74(7), 1207-1215.
  • Trauer, J. M., Qian, M. Y., Doyle, J. S., et al. (2015). Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Chronic Insomnia: A Systematic Review and Meta-analysis. The American Journal of Psychiatry, 172(8), 721-735.
  • Wheatley, C. M., & Smith, R. P. (2019). Pre-sleep routines and their impact on sleep outcomes. Journal of Sleep Research, 28(5), e12756.
  • National Sleep Foundation. (2021). Healthy sleep environment tips. Retrieved from sleepfoundation.org.

By implementing these methods, you can foster a sleep-conducive lifestyle and enjoy more restful nights.

How to Not Take Yourself So Seriously: A Guide to Lightening Up

In a fast-paced, achievement-driven world, it’s easy to get caught up in taking life—and ourselves—too seriously. Whether it’s at work, in relationships, or during personal challenges, an overly serious attitude can lead to stress, anxiety, and even hinder personal growth. Learning how to lighten up, laugh at yourself, and maintain perspective can lead to a healthier, more fulfilling life.

Why Do We Take Ourselves So Seriously?

Several psychological and social factors contribute to the tendency to take ourselves too seriously. These include perfectionism, societal expectations, fear of judgment, and a desire to control outcomes. Psychologist Albert Ellis, known for his Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), emphasized that people often create unnecessary stress by setting rigid expectations for themselves and others, leading to feelings of frustration and disappointment (Ellis, 1997).

Cultural pressure also plays a role. In societies where productivity, success, and personal achievement are highly valued, the stakes can feel incredibly high. Individuals often feel the need to maintain a “perfect” image, fearing that any sign of failure or imperfection will be judged harshly by others.

Benefits of Not Taking Yourself Too Seriously

Letting go of self-seriousness offers numerous psychological and emotional benefits. According to research published in the journal *Personality and Individual Differences*, individuals who exhibit higher levels of self-compassion and humor tend to have lower levels of anxiety and depression, and are better able to cope with challenges (Stieger, Wellinger, & Roberts, 2019).

By allowing yourself to laugh at your mistakes and imperfections, you gain resilience. Instead of seeing failures as personal shortcomings, you can view them as opportunities for growth. Humor, in particular, serves as a powerful coping mechanism in difficult situations, reducing stress and enhancing well-being.

Practical Strategies to Stop Taking Yourself Too Seriously

Here are some evidence-based strategies to help you lighten up:

  • 1. Practice Self-Compassion: Kristin Neff, a leading researcher on self-compassion, emphasizes the importance of treating yourself with the same kindness and understanding that you would offer a friend. Instead of berating yourself for mistakes or perceived failures, remind yourself that everyone makes mistakes and that imperfection is part of being human (Neff, 2011).
  • 2. Develop a Growth Mindset: Psychologist Carol Dweck’s work on mindset shows that individuals who adopt a “growth mindset” (believing that abilities and intelligence can be developed through effort) are more likely to embrace challenges and view failures as learning experiences. This approach fosters resilience and reduces the pressure to appear flawless (Dweck, 2006).
  • 3. Laugh at Yourself: Humor is a powerful tool for diffusing stress and putting things into perspective. Laughter can help you step outside of a situation, view it objectively, and reduce its emotional impact. Embracing humor also helps break down social barriers, making you more relatable and less self-conscious (Martin, 2007).
  • 4. Challenge Perfectionistic Thinking:    Perfectionism is a major driver of self-seriousness. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) techniques can help individuals recognize and challenge perfectionistic thinking patterns. Instead of striving for unrealistic standards, set achievable goals and learn to accept good-enough outcomes (Flett & Hewitt, 2014).
  • 5. Focus on the Bigger Picture: A common reason people take themselves too seriously is getting lost in the minutiae of daily life. Step back and ask yourself: Will this matter in a year? In five years? This practice of reframing helps you gain perspective and reduces the immediate intensity of situations.
  • 6. Surround Yourself with Positive, Humorous People: The people you surround yourself with have a big impact on your attitude. If you spend time with people who can laugh at themselves and take life in stride, their lighthearted approach is likely to rub off on you. Social support is a key factor in maintaining mental and emotional well-being (Cohen & Wills, 1985).
  • 7. Mindfulness and Meditation: Mindfulness practices help cultivate awareness of the present moment without judgment. This helps reduce over-identification with negative thoughts and fosters a more relaxed approach to life’s challenges. Studies show that mindfulness can significantly lower stress and improve overall mental health (Kabat-Zinn, 1990).
  • The Role of Humor in Letting Go: Humor has long been recognized as a powerful psychological tool. Sigmund Freud believed that humor allowed the conscious mind to release tension and cope with stress. Modern research supports this idea, suggesting that humor promotes psychological flexibility, which is the ability to adapt to different situations with ease (Kashdan & Rottenberg, 2010). Humor also creates social bonds. When you’re able to laugh at your own quirks and mishaps, it shows humility and relatability, making it easier for others to connect with you. This not only improves your relationships but also boosts your own sense of well-being.

Not taking yourself too seriously is a skill that can be developed over time. By practicing self-compassion, adopting a growth mindset, using humor, and focusing on the bigger picture, you can reduce stress and cultivate a more joyful, resilient approach to life. Embrace imperfection, laugh at your mistakes, and remember that life is too short to be taken too seriously.

This article has been written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years of experience in the social work. He currently serves as the executive director and outpatient behavioral health psychotherapist through Southeast Kentucky Behavioral Health, LLC based out of London Kentucky. He may be reached by phone at 606-657-0532 extension 101 or by email at [email protected].

References

  • Cohen, S., & Wills, T. A. (1985). Stress, social support, and the buffering hypothesis. *Psychological Bulletin*, 98(2), 310-357.
  • Dweck, C. S. (2006). *Mindset: The new psychology of success*. Random House.
  • Ellis, A. (1997). *How to Control Your Anxiety Before It Controls You*. Citadel Press.
  • Flett, G. L., & Hewitt, P. L. (2014). *Perfectionism in Personality and Psychopathology: A Vulnerability Perspective*. American Psychological Association.
  • Kabat-Zinn, J. (1990). *Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness*. Delacorte Press.
  • Kashdan, T. B., & Rottenberg, J. (2010). Psychological flexibility as a fundamental aspect of health. *Clinical Psychology Review*, 30(7), 865-878.
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  • Neff, K. (2011). *Self-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself*. HarperCollins.
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Am I Able to Be Happy? Understanding the Science and Strategies of Happiness

The pursuit of happiness is a fundamental human aspiration. However, many wonder, “Am I able to be happy?” Understanding happiness, its contributing factors, and strategies to foster it can help answer this question and unlock a more fulfilling life.

What is Happiness?

Happiness is often defined as a state of well-being characterized by positive emotions and life satisfaction (Diener et al., 1985). It encompasses both momentary pleasures and long-term contentment. The “science of happiness” examines how biological, psychological, and social factors influence this emotional state.

The Biology of Happiness

Research indicates that happiness has a genetic component, with up to 50% of individual differences attributed to hereditary factors (Lyubomirsky et al., 2005). This does not mean happiness is predetermined; environmental factors and intentional actions play a significant role in shaping emotional well-being.

Brain chemistry also influences happiness. Neurotransmitters such as dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins are known as the “feel-good chemicals,” regulating mood and promoting positive feelings (Nestler & Malenka, 2004).

Can Everyone Be Happy?

While challenges such as mental health conditions or adverse life circumstances may hinder happiness, research shows that everyone has the potential to experience it. The “happiness set point” theory suggests that people tend to return to a baseline level of happiness after significant life events (Brickman et al., 1978). However, intentional practices can shift this baseline, fostering sustained happiness.

Strategies to Cultivate Happiness

1. Practice Gratitude

Gratitude is a powerful tool for enhancing happiness. Expressing appreciation for the positive aspects of life increases well-being and reduces stress (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).

2. Build Strong Relationships

Social connections are critical for happiness. A study from Harvard found that the quality of relationships is the strongest predictor of life satisfaction (Waldinger & Schulz, 2010). Cultivating meaningful relationships can create emotional support and joy.

3. Engage in Meaningful Activities

Purpose and meaning in life are strongly correlated with happiness (Ryff & Singer, 1998). Engaging in work, hobbies, or volunteerism that aligns with personal values fosters fulfillment and positivity.

4. Practice Mindfulness

Mindfulness practices, such as meditation, reduce stress and promote emotional well-being. By focusing on the present, individuals can cultivate a sense of calm and contentment (Kabat-Zinn, 1990).

5. Prioritize Physical Health

Regular exercise, a balanced diet, and adequate sleep improve mood and energy levels. Physical activity, in particular, releases endorphins, known as natural mood enhancers (Herring et al., 2010).

6. Set Realistic Goals

Setting and achieving goals, even small ones, can create a sense of accomplishment and increase happiness. Focusing on progress rather than perfection helps maintain motivation and optimism (Locke & Latham, 2002).

7. Limit Comparisons

Comparing oneself to others often leads to dissatisfaction. Practicing self-compassion and focusing on personal growth fosters a positive self-image and happiness (Neff, 2003).

Seeking Professional Help

For individuals facing chronic unhappiness or mental health challenges, seeking help from a therapist or counselor can provide valuable support and strategies. Cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), for example, is effective in addressing negative thought patterns and enhancing well-being (Beck, 2011).

Conclusion

Happiness is a multifaceted experience influenced by genetic, psychological, and environmental factors. While challenges may arise, everyone has the capacity to cultivate happiness through intentional practices such as gratitude, mindfulness, and building meaningful connections. By prioritizing mental, emotional, and physical health, individuals can unlock their potential for joy and fulfillment.

This article has been written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Coller has over 25 years of experience in the social work field. He currently serves as the executive director and outpatient patient behavioral health therapist at Southeast Kentucky Behavioral Health, LLC based out of London Kentucky. He may be reached by phone at 606-657-0532 extension 101 or by email at [email protected].

References

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