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Understanding Impulsivity: A Guide for Teens

Impulsivity is a term that you might have heard before, but what does it really mean, and how does it affect your life? For teenagers, understanding impulsivity is especially important because the teenage years are a time of significant brain development and decision-making. Let’s break it down.

What is Impulsivity?

Impulsivity refers to acting on a whim or without thinking about the consequences. It’s when you make a decision or take action quickly, without pausing to consider whether it’s a good idea or not. While everyone acts impulsively sometimes, for some people, impulsivity happens more often and can lead to challenges in school, relationships, and personal growth.

Why Are Teens More Impulsive?

During your teenage years, your brain is still developing, especially the prefrontal cortex—the part of your brain responsible for decision-making, planning, and self-control. Meanwhile, the amygdala, which drives emotions and impulsive reactions, is highly active. This imbalance can make it harder to think through actions before you take them. It’s not your fault—it’s just how your brain works during this stage of life (Casey et al., 2008; Steinberg, 2013).

Examples of Impulsivity

Impulsivity can show up in different ways, such as:

Blurting out answers in class before the teacher finishes the question.
Interrupting conversations without waiting for your turn to speak.
Taking risks, like skipping homework to play video games or trying something dangerous without thinking about safety.
Spending money quickly on things you don’t need instead of saving for something important.

Positive and Negative Sides of Impulsivity

Impulsivity isn’t always a bad thing. Sometimes, being spontaneous can lead to exciting experiences, like trying a new hobby or making a new friend. However, when impulsivity leads to poor choices or harmful consequences, it becomes a problem.

For instance, acting on an impulse might result in:

Getting into arguments because you said something without thinking.
Losing trust with friends or family because of reckless decisions.
Struggling with schoolwork due to procrastination or distractions.

How to Manage Impulsivity

The good news is that you can learn to manage impulsivity with practice and support. Here are some strategies:

Pause Before Acting: When you feel the urge to act quickly, count to ten or take a deep breath. This gives your brain time to catch up and think.
Set Goals: Having clear goals can help you focus and avoid impulsive decisions that might derail your plans.
Practice Self-Reflection: After making a decision, reflect on what went well and what you could improve next time.
Ask for Help: Talk to a trusted adult, teacher, or counselor if impulsivity is causing problems in your life.

When to Seek Support

If impulsivity is making it hard for you to succeed in school, maintain friendships, or stay safe, it’s important to reach out for help. Conditions like ADHD (Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) are often linked with impulsivity, and professionals can offer tools and treatments to help manage it (American Psychiatric Association, 2013; Barkley, 2015).

Conclusion

Impulsivity is a natural part of being a teenager, but it doesn’t have to control your life. By understanding why it happens and using strategies to manage it, you can make smarter decisions and take control of your actions. Remember, it’s okay to ask for help when you need it—your future self will thank you.

This article has been written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years of experience in the Social Work field. He currently serves as the Executive Director and Outpatient Behavioral Health Therapist at Southeast Kentucky Behavioral Health, LLC based out of London Kentucky. Me may be reached at (606) 657-0532 Ext 101 or by email [email protected].

References

American Psychiatric Association. (2013). Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders (5th ed.). Washington, DC: Author.

Barkley, R. A. (2015). Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder: A handbook for diagnosis and treatment (4th ed.). New York, NY: Guilford Press.

Casey, B. J., Jones, R. M., & Hare, T. A. (2008). The adolescent brain. Annals of the New York Academy of Sciences, 1124(1), 111–126. https://doi.org/10.1196/annals.1440.010

Diamond, A. (2013). Executive functions. Annual Review of Psychology, 64, 135–168. https://doi.org/10.1146/annurev-psych-113011-143750

Steinberg, L. (2013). The influence of neuroscience on US Supreme Court decisions about adolescents’ criminal culpability. Nature Reviews Neuroscience, 14(7), 513–518. https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3509

Tamm, L., & Nakonezny, P. A. (2020). Executive function and impulsivity in adolescent decision making. Journal of Adolescence, 80, 64–70. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.adolescence.2020.02.003

John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW

Dec, Wed, 2024

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How Teens Can Manipulate Their Parents and Why They May Do So

Teenagers are in a developmental stage marked by significant emotional, cognitive, and social growth. As they strive for independence, teens may sometimes use manipulation as a tool to influence their parents and achieve their desires. This article explores common manipulative tactics employed by teens, the psychological reasons behind such behaviors, and strategies parents can use to recognize and address manipulation.

Understanding Manipulative Behaviors

Manipulation is a way of influencing or controlling another person’s actions, emotions, or decisions, often through subtle or indirect means. Teens may manipulate their parents intentionally or unconsciously, employing tactics that exploit parental emotions or expectations.

Some common methods of manipulation include:

Guilt-Tripping: Teens may remind parents of sacrifices made for them or accuse them of being unfair to induce guilt and compliance.
Playing Parents Against Each Other: Also known as triangulation, this involves giving conflicting information to parents to gain an advantage.
Emotional Outbursts: Using anger, tears, or withdrawal to wear down parental resistance.
Feigning Helplessness: Pretending to be unable to complete tasks or solve problems independently to garner assistance or attention.
Promises and Bargaining: Offering to behave better or fulfill obligations in the future in exchange for immediate rewards.

Why Teens Manipulate Their Parents

Manipulative behavior in teenagers often stems from a combination of psychological and environmental factors. The motivations behind such actions can be complex and multifaceted, including:

Desire for Independence
Adolescence is a time of seeking autonomy. Teens may manipulate parents to gain freedoms they perceive as a step toward adulthood, such as staying out later or having fewer rules. Cognitive Development: During adolescence, the prefrontal cortex (responsible for decision-making and impulse control) is still developing. This immaturity can lead to impulsive decisions, including manipulative behaviors (Blakemore, 2018).
Testing Boundaries
Teens often test limits to determine how much control they can exert in family dynamics. Manipulation allows them to assess which behaviors lead to favorable outcomes.
Emotional Needs
Manipulation may signal unmet emotional needs, such as a desire for attention, affection, or validation. Teens struggling with self-esteem or feelings of neglect may resort to manipulative tactics to secure parental involvement.
Avoidance of Consequences
By deflecting blame or appealing to emotions, teens can avoid facing the repercussions of their actions, such as punishment or accountability.
Peer Influence
Social dynamics and peer pressure may drive teens to manipulate parents to obtain material goods or freedoms that align with peer group norms.

Recognizing and Addressing Manipulation

Parents can mitigate manipulation by cultivating awareness and adopting strategies that foster healthy communication and boundaries.

Recognize Patterns
Identifying recurring manipulative behaviors is crucial. Parents should pay attention to tactics like guilt-tripping or emotional outbursts and consider whether their responses reinforce these behaviors.
Set Clear Boundaries
Establishing and consistently enforcing boundaries helps teens understand acceptable behaviors. Clear rules reduce ambiguity, minimizing opportunities for manipulation.
Encourage Open Communication
Teens may manipulate because they feel their needs or opinions are not heard. Creating a safe space for honest conversations fosters trust and reduces the likelihood of deceptive tactics.
Model Assertive Behavior
Parents can demonstrate assertiveness by responding calmly and firmly to manipulation. Refraining from emotional reactions helps de-escalate situations.
Teach Emotional Regulation
Supporting teens in managing their emotions equips them with healthier ways to express their needs and frustrations without resorting to manipulation.
Seek Professional Support
If manipulation stems from deeper issues, such as anxiety or trauma, consulting a therapist can provide valuable insights and interventions.

Teen manipulation is often a natural byproduct of adolescence, reflecting their developmental quest for independence and self-expression. While such behavior can challenge parental authority, it also offers opportunities to strengthen family relationships through improved communication and boundary-setting. By understanding the reasons behind manipulative actions and addressing them constructively, parents can guide their teens toward healthier interpersonal skills.

This article was written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years of experience in the social work field. He currently serves as the executive director and outpatient therapist for Southeast Kentucky Behavior Heath, LLC based out of London Kentucky. He may be reached by phone at (606) 657-0532 extension 101 or by email at [email protected].

References

Blakemore, S.-J. (2018). Inventing Ourselves: The Secret Life of the Teenage Brain. PublicAffairs.
Steinberg, L. (2014). Age of Opportunity: Lessons from the New Science of Adolescence. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.
Grolnick, W. S., & Seal, K. (2020). Parenting Practices that Promote Intrinsic Motivation in Adolescents. Journal of Adolescence and Youth Development, 42(3), 295–310.
American Psychological Association. (2020). Understanding Adolescents: The Importance of Brain Development. Retrieved from www.apa.org

John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW

Nov, Mon, 2024

ADHD coping

Supporting Children with ADHD in Schools: Strategies for Educational Success

Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) affects many children and can present challenges in educational settings, including difficulties with focus, organization, and emotional regulation. However, with proper support, schools can play a crucial role in helping children with ADHD thrive academically and socially. This article outlines evidence-based strategies that educators and administrators can implement to support children with ADHD in achieving educational success.

1. Provide Structured and Predictable Routines

Children with ADHD benefit from consistent routines that reduce uncertainty and help them focus.

• Why it works: Predictable schedules minimize distractions and promote self-regulation (Barkley, 2021).

• Implementation: Schools can use visual schedules, consistent class routines, and clear transitions between activities. Providing a daily agenda at the beginning of the day can help students anticipate tasks and prepare mentally.

2. Use Individualized Education Plans (IEPs) and 504 Plans

For students with ADHD, accommodations through IEPs or 504 Plans can address their unique needs.

• Why it works: These plans allow for tailored interventions, helping students access the curriculum effectively (DuPaul & Stoner, 2014).

• Implementation: Accommodations may include extended test time, preferential seating, or modified assignments to reduce cognitive overload.

3. Incorporate Movement Breaks

Frequent physical activity helps children with ADHD regulate their energy and improve focus.

• Why it works: Research shows that movement increases dopamine levels, enhancing attention and motivation (Halperin et al., 2020).

• Implementation: Integrate short movement breaks, such as stretching, walking, or classroom yoga, between lessons. Schools can also provide fidget tools or standing desks for students who struggle with sitting still.

4. Offer Clear and Concise Instructions

Children with ADHD often struggle with processing lengthy or complex directions.

• Why it works: Simplifying instructions reduces cognitive strain and helps students stay focused (Zentall, 2015).

• Implementation: Use step-by-step directions, written instructions, and visual aids. Check for understanding by having students repeat instructions back to the teacher.

5. Provide Positive Reinforcement

Reinforcing positive behavior can motivate students with ADHD to stay on task and meet expectations.

• Why it works: Positive reinforcement fosters a growth mindset and builds self-esteem (Millichap, 2021).

• Implementation: Use praise, reward systems, or token economies to celebrate small successes. Focus on effort and improvement rather than solely on outcomes.

6. Create an ADHD-Friendly Classroom Environment

A well-structured and minimally distracting classroom can help students stay focused.

• Why it works: Environmental adjustments reduce sensory overload and support sustained attention (Pfeiffer, 2022).

• Implementation: Use organizational tools like color-coded folders, labeled bins, and clutter-free desks. Position students away from high-traffic areas and provide quiet zones for focused work.

7. Teach Executive Function Skills

Children with ADHD often need support developing skills such as time management and organization.

• Why it works: Strengthening executive function helps students manage their workload and responsibilities (Zelazo & Lyons, 2012).

• Implementation: Introduce tools like planners, checklists, and digital calendars. Teach students to break down assignments into smaller steps and set achievable goals.

8. Foster Open Communication with Families

Collaboration with parents ensures consistency in strategies used at home and school.

• Why it works: A team-based approach improves problem-solving and creates a unified support system (DuPaul et al., 2011).

• Implementation: Schedule regular parent-teacher conferences, send home progress reports, and maintain open lines of communication via email or apps.

9. Provide Social-Emotional Support

Children with ADHD often face challenges with peer relationships and emotional regulation.

• Why it works: Social-emotional learning (SEL) programs improve self-awareness, empathy, and interpersonal skills (Elias et al., 2015).

• Implementation: Incorporate SEL lessons into the curriculum and provide access to school counselors for emotional support. Use role-playing activities to teach conflict resolution and social skills.

10. Leverage Technology

Technology can help students with ADHD stay organized and engaged in their learning.

• Why it works: Digital tools cater to diverse learning styles and help students track tasks and deadlines (Radesky et al., 2020).

• Implementation: Use apps like ClassDojo for behavior tracking, Google Calendar for scheduling, or gamified learning platforms to maintain engagement.

Schools have a vital role in supporting children with ADHD by creating inclusive environments, providing individualized accommodations, and teaching skills that foster independence. Through structured routines, positive reinforcement, and open communication with families, schools can empower children with ADHD to succeed academically and socially.

This article was written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years experience in the social work field. He currently serves as the executive Director and outpatient behavioral health therapist through Southeast Kentucky Behavioral health based out of London Kentucky. John may be reached by phone at 606-657-0532 extension 101 or by email at [email protected].

References

• Barkley, R. A. (2021). Taking Charge of ADHD: The Complete, Authoritative Guide for Parents. Guilford Press.

• DuPaul, G. J., & Stoner, G. (2014). ADHD in the Schools: Assessment and Intervention Strategies. Guilford Publications.

• DuPaul, G. J., et al. (2011). Home-school collaboration in ADHD management. School Psychology Review, 40(4), 494-512.

• Elias, M. J., et al. (2015). Promoting Social and Emotional Learning: Guidelines for Educators. ASCD.

• Halperin, J. M., et al. (2020). Physical activity intervention improves sustained attention and executive functioning in children with ADHD. Journal of Attention Disorders, 24(10), 1408-1415.

• Millichap, J. G. (2021). Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Handbook: A Physician’s Guide to ADHD. Springer.

• Pfeiffer, S. (2022). Routines for children with ADHD: Why they matter and how to build them. Psychology Today.

• Radesky, J., et al. (2020). Digital technology and ADHD: Benefits and risks. Pediatrics, 145(S2), S157-S162.

• Zentall, S. S. (2015). Environmental support for children with ADHD. Behavioral Interventions, 30(3), 153-164.

• Zelazo, P. D., & Lyons, K. E. (2012). Mindfulness training in childhood. Developmental Psychology, 48(5), 1023-1031.

John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW

Nov, Sat, 2024

ADHD coping

Helping Your Child Learn to Focus with ADHD

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder that can make it challenging for children to focus on tasks, complete assignments, or stay organized. While ADHD presents unique challenges, parents can adopt effective strategies to help their child build focus and self-regulation skills. Below are research-backed techniques to support children with ADHD in learning how to focus.

1. Establish a Routine

Children with ADHD thrive on structure and predictability. Creating a daily schedule helps reduce distractions and provides clear expectations.

• Why it works: Routines help children anticipate what comes next, reducing anxiety and impulsivity (Pfeiffer, 2022).

• How to implement: Use visual schedules, timers, and reminders to organize daily activities, including homework, chores, and free time.

2. Break Tasks into Smaller Steps

Long or complex tasks can feel overwhelming for children with ADHD. Breaking assignments into smaller, manageable steps can increase focus and reduce frustration.

• Why it works: Research shows that smaller tasks are less intimidating and allow for frequent moments of accomplishment, reinforcing motivation (Barkley, 2021).

• How to implement: Use checklists or break down projects into timed segments, focusing on one step at a time.

3. Create a Distraction-Free Environment

An organized and distraction-free workspace can significantly improve a child’s ability to concentrate.

• Why it works: Reducing visual and auditory distractions supports sustained attention and task completion (Zentall, 2015).

• How to implement: Set up a dedicated workspace away from televisions, phones, or other distractions. Use noise-canceling headphones if needed.

4. Incorporate Physical Activity

Physical activity can help children with ADHD release pent-up energy and improve cognitive function.

• Why it works: Exercise has been shown to enhance attention and executive functioning in children with ADHD (Halperin et al., 2020).

• How to implement: Incorporate regular breaks for movement, such as stretching, jumping jacks, or a quick walk.

5. Use Positive Reinforcement

Children with ADHD respond well to positive reinforcement when they demonstrate desired behaviors.

• Why it works: Praise and rewards can encourage focus by associating effort with positive outcomes (Millichap, 2021).

• How to implement: Provide specific praise for focused behavior, such as, “Great job working on your math problems for 10 minutes without getting distracted!”

6. Teach Self-Regulation Techniques

Teaching mindfulness and self-regulation strategies can help children recognize when they are losing focus and how to redirect their attention.

• Why it works: Mindfulness has been shown to improve emotional regulation and attention span in children with ADHD (Zelazo & Lyons, 2012).

• How to implement: Practice deep breathing exercises, guided meditation, or focus games like “Mindful Minute.”

7. Leverage Technology Wisely

While excessive screen time can worsen focus issues, using technology designed to aid organization and focus can be beneficial.

• Why it works: Tools such as time management apps or gamified educational programs can enhance engagement (Radesky et al., 2020).

• How to implement: Use apps like Forest or Todoist to encourage task management and accountability.

8. Communicate with Educators

Collaboration with teachers can ensure consistent strategies across home and school environments.

• Why it works: A team-based approach provides continuity in behavioral strategies and accommodations (DuPaul & Stoner, 2014).

• How to implement: Share strategies that work at home and ask teachers for regular updates about your child’s progress.

Supporting a child with ADHD requires patience, consistency, and tailored strategies. By implementing routines, breaking down tasks, creating distraction-free environments, and fostering self-regulation, parents can help their child develop the focus and skills necessary for success. Open communication with educators and professionals can further enhance these efforts, ensuring a supportive and cohesive approach.

This article is written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years experience in the social work field. He currently serves as executive Director and outpatient behavioral health therapist of Southeast Kentucky Behavioral Health based out of London Kentucky. Mr. Collier may be reached by phone at 606-657-0532 extension 101 or by email at [email protected].