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Supporting Veterans and Their Mental Health: A National Responsibility

Veterans have served their country with dedication and, upon returning to civilian life, often face numerous challenges that require our support and understanding. Many veterans experience significant mental health issues, including post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), depression, anxiety, and substance use disorders. These challenges can hinder their ability to reintegrate into civilian life and maintain relationships, employment, and a healthy lifestyle. Recognizing the mental health needs of veterans and implementing effective support strategies is crucial for honoring their service and supporting their well-being.

The Mental Health Landscape for Veterans

Veterans are at a higher risk of mental health issues compared to the general population. A report from the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) indicated that approximately 11-20% of veterans who served in Iraq and Afghanistan suffer from PTSD in any given year, and the prevalence is even higher among those who served in the Vietnam War (U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, 2022). Additionally, veterans are at an increased risk for depression, anxiety, and substance abuse issues, with research suggesting that over 25% of veterans experience symptoms related to depression and other mood disorders (Hoge et al., 2004).

A primary cause of these mental health challenges is the exposure to trauma and high-stress situations during service. Repeated exposure to combat, violence, and injury can leave lasting psychological scars that are difficult to heal. This stress may also exacerbate pre-existing mental health issues, making it even more difficult for veterans to transition back to civilian life.

Barriers to Mental Health Care for Veterans

While the VA and other organizations offer resources for veterans, barriers to accessing mental health care persist. According to the RAND Corporation, veterans may face significant obstacles, such as long wait times for appointments, stigma surrounding mental health, and a lack of providers who understand military culture (Tanielian et al., 2018). This stigma can prevent veterans from seeking help, as they may feel that mental health challenges are a sign of weakness or that others will not understand their experiences.

Rural veterans often face additional obstacles due to the lack of nearby mental health resources. Research has shown that nearly a quarter of all veterans live in rural areas, where specialized mental health services may be limited (Weeks et al., 2008). Telemedicine and virtual counseling have helped bridge some of these gaps, but there remains a need for more accessible, culturally informed care tailored to the unique needs of veterans.

Strategies for Supporting Veterans’ Mental Health

Increasing Access to Mental Health Services:
Expanding mental health resources specifically tailored for veterans is essential. The VA and other organizations are implementing initiatives to reduce wait times, increase the availability of telehealth services, and provide alternative therapies, such as art therapy, music therapy, and mindfulness practices (U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, 2022). Community-based programs can also provide veterans with accessible care, particularly in rural areas.
Building a Community of Support:
Peer support programs can be highly effective for veterans, as they allow veterans to connect with others who have had similar experiences. Programs like the Veterans Crisis Line and the VA’s Peer Support program connect veterans with trained peers, who provide support, understanding, and guidance. Research suggests that peer support reduces PTSD symptoms and increases veterans’ willingness to seek help (Resnick et al., 2012).
Reducing Stigma through Public Awareness:
Public awareness campaigns can play a crucial role in reducing stigma around veterans’ mental health issues. Campaigns should focus on educating both veterans and the general public about the commonality of mental health challenges, emphasizing that seeking help is a sign of strength. The VA’s “Make the Connection” campaign is an example of an initiative aimed at reducing stigma and encouraging veterans to pursue mental health treatment (U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, 2022).
Encouraging Family Involvement and Support:
Family members can be a crucial source of support for veterans dealing with mental health issues. Programs that educate family members about PTSD, depression, and other mental health conditions can equip them to support their loved ones effectively. Involving families in therapy sessions can also create a support network that extends beyond formal mental health services, which may improve outcomes for veterans (Monson et al., 2006).
Employment and Reintegration Support:
Meaningful employment can significantly impact veterans’ mental health and quality of life. Programs like the VA’s Vocational Rehabilitation and Employment services provide veterans with job training, career counseling, and job placement assistance, helping veterans reintegrate into civilian life (U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, 2022). Research shows that veterans who find stable employment report higher levels of satisfaction and mental well-being (Resnik et al., 2012).

A Call to Action

Supporting veterans’ mental health is not only a moral duty but also a way to ensure the well-being of individuals who have made profound sacrifices. By addressing the barriers veterans face in accessing mental health care, expanding peer support networks, reducing stigma, and providing employment and family support, society can help veterans lead healthier and more fulfilling lives. Moreover, these actions honor their service by providing the respect, care, and compassion they deserve.

We must continue to advocate for policies that support veterans’ mental health, fund research into effective treatments, and raise public awareness about the unique challenges veterans face. Providing veterans with the resources and support they need to thrive is one of the most meaningful ways we can repay them for their service and dedication to our country.

This article has been written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years of experience in the social work field and is based in London Kentucky through Southeast Kentucky Behavioral Health, LLC. Mr. Collier may be reached by phone at (606) 657–0532 extension 101 or by email at [email protected].

References

Hoge, C. W., Castro, C. A., Messer, S. C., McGurk, D., Cotting, D. I., & Koffman, R. L. (2004). Combat duty in Iraq and Afghanistan, mental health problems, and barriers to care. New England Journal of Medicine, 351(1), 13-22.

Monson, C. M., Schnurr, P. P., Stevens, S. P., & Guthrie, K. A. (2006). Cognitive-behavioral conjoint therapy for PTSD: Pilot results from a community sample. Journal of Traumatic Stress, 19(3), 289-299.

Resnick, S. G., & Rosenheck, R. A. (2012). Integrating peer-provided services: A quasi-experimental study of recovery orientation, confidence, and empowerment. Psychiatric Services, 63(6), 541-547.

Tanielian, T., Jaycox, L. H., & RAND Corporation. (2008). Invisible Wounds of War: Psychological and Cognitive Injuries, Their Consequences, and Services to Assist Recovery. RAND Corporation.

U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs. (2022). PTSD: National Center for PTSD. https://www.ptsd.va.gov

John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW

Nov, Thu, 2024

Relationships

What is Love Bombing and How to Avoid It

In relationships, the initial stages are often filled with excitement, attention, and affection. However, there’s a line between genuine affection and manipulative behavior. One tactic that has become increasingly recognized and discussed is “love bombing.” This seemingly harmless form of intense affection can lead to harmful consequences for the individual on the receiving end. Let’s explore what love bombing is, the signs to watch for, and how to avoid falling into its trap.

What is Love Bombing?

Love bombing is a manipulation tactic where an individual overwhelms someone with excessive attention, compliments, and gifts to gain control over them. While the attention can feel flattering and genuine at first, it’s often a strategic ploy to create dependency and quickly escalate the relationship. The person performing the love bombing might shower their target with affection, constant communication, and seemingly sincere gestures, only to later use this bond for control and even emotional abuse.

The term “love bombing” is often associated with narcissistic personalities, as it serves their need for control, admiration, and validation. However, anyone can exhibit love bombing behavior, whether intentionally manipulative or subconsciously driven by their own insecurities.

Signs of Love Bombing

Recognizing love bombing can be challenging, as the behavior can easily be mistaken for genuine interest and passion. However, there are certain red flags that can help you identify it:

1. Overwhelming Affection Too Quickly: In the early stages of a relationship, love bombers often express intense feelings of love and commitment. They may talk about your future together, use words like “soulmate,” or declare love within a few days or weeks.
2. Constant Attention and Contact: While frequent communication is normal in budding relationships, love bombers will often take it to an extreme. They may bombard you with texts, calls, and social media messages, making it difficult for you to have personal space.
3. Excessive Gift-Giving: Love bombers often shower their targets with expensive gifts or lavish gestures. While gifts can be a normal part of relationships, this behavior is typically marked by an extreme level of generosity meant to create a sense of obligation and guilt.
4. Isolating You from Others: In an effort to create dependency, a love bomber may attempt to isolate you from friends and family. They might criticize your loved ones, make you feel guilty for spending time away, or frame others as obstacles to your relationship.
5. Quick Escalation of Commitment: A love bomber may push for immediate commitment, such as moving in together or getting married. This is often a tactic to secure control over the relationship before you have time to question or evaluate it.

Why Love Bombing is Harmful

Love bombing can have serious emotional consequences. It often leads to confusion, dependency, and a cycle of highs and lows, as love bombers might suddenly withdraw their affection or exhibit controlling behaviors. This emotional rollercoaster can erode self-esteem and leave individuals feeling trapped and manipulated. Over time, the cycle can lead to more severe emotional or even physical abuse.

How to Avoid Love Bombing

1. Take Your Time: Healthy relationships take time to build. Be cautious of relationships that move too quickly or seem “too good to be true.” If someone is pressuring you to commit or express deep feelings early on, it’s a sign to take a step back.
2. Set Boundaries: Establish and maintain clear boundaries, even if the other person protests. Boundaries are essential for maintaining autonomy and ensuring that both parties are comfortable.
3. Listen to Your Intuition: If something feels off, trust your gut. Love bombing can be intoxicating, but if you sense a lack of authenticity, don’t ignore it. Take note of any discomfort or hesitation, as these feelings often indicate a need to reassess the relationship.
4. Maintain Your Support System: Keep in touch with friends and family and involve them in your relationship decisions. Love bombers often isolate their targets, so maintaining a strong support system can provide you with perspective and objective feedback.
5. Observe Actions Over Time: Genuine affection is consistent and not overwhelming. Pay attention to how the person behaves over time, particularly if they continue to respect your boundaries and support your autonomy as the relationship progresses.
6. Educate Yourself: Understanding manipulative behaviors like love bombing can help you recognize them in the future. By becoming aware of these tactics, you’re less likely to fall into their trap.

Love bombing is a deceptive tactic that may initially appear as passionate love but can ultimately lead to emotional harm. By being aware of the signs, trusting your intuition, and setting boundaries, you can protect yourself from manipulative relationships. Healthy relationships are built on mutual respect, trust, and a balanced exchange of affection. If someone’s behavior feels overwhelming or controlling, it’s okay to step back and re-evaluate the relationship. Remember, real love grows over time and doesn’t need to be forced.

References

Braiker, H. B. (2001). Who’s Pulling Your Strings? How to Break the Cycle of Manipulation and Regain Control of Your Life. McGraw Hill.
Campbell, W. K., & Foster, C. A. (2002). Narcissism and Commitment in Romantic Relationships: An Investment Model Analysis. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, 28(4), 484-495.
Freeman, L. (2018). Manipulative Behavior in Relationships: How to Spot It and Protect Yourself. Psychology Today. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com
Hammond, C. (2018). The Dangers of Love Bombing: Recognize the Signs. Journal of Personal Relationships and Social Psychology, 75(2), 231-243.
Lancer, D. (2017). Dealing with Narcissists: How to Break Free from the Cycle of Manipulation and Abuse. Hazelden Publishing.
Stosny, S. (2019). Emotional Abuse in Intimate Relationships. Psychology Today. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com

John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW

Nov, Thu, 2024

Lifestages Personal Growth Teen

Do I Act “Entitled”? A Teenager’s Perspective

In today’s world, the concept of “entitlement” is often associated with young people. But what does it really mean to be “entitled”? At its core, entitlement is a sense of deserving special treatment or privileges without necessarily earning them (Twenge & Campbell, 2009). While entitlement isn’t inherently bad, when unchecked, it can lead to negative behaviors and strained relationships. This article aims to help you, as a teenager, understand entitlement from your perspective and how it might impact your life.

What is Entitlement?

Entitlement is a mindset where people believe they deserve certain rights or privileges without putting in effort or showing gratitude. It’s like expecting a reward without doing the work or expecting things to go your way just because you want them to. Psychologists Dr. Jean Twenge and Dr. W. Keith Campbell define it as “a stable and pervasive sense that one deserves more and is entitled to more than others” (Twenge & Campbell, 2009). This can sometimes show up as expecting praise for things that should be standard or demanding special treatment in different situations.

Signs of Entitlement in Teenagers

According to psychologists, entitlement can sometimes develop naturally during teenage years as you seek more independence and explore self-identity (APA, 2013). Here are some common signs of entitlement to reflect on:

Expecting Praise for Basic Responsibilities If you often expect praise for everyday responsibilities, like finishing your homework or chores, this might be a sign of entitlement. While appreciation is important, basic responsibilities are usually expected without special recognition.
Demanding Special Treatment Entitlement can show up when you believe you should be treated differently just because of who you are. For instance, if you often feel frustrated when others don’t give you special privileges, it may be worth reflecting on why you feel that way.
Ignoring Others’ Needs Entitlement can lead to a focus on one’s own needs while overlooking others. If you frequently expect your family or friends to go out of their way for you, without offering support in return, it might be a sign of an entitled attitude.
4. Struggling with Criticism or Rejection Those with entitled mindsets often have a hard time handling criticism or rejection. If you find yourself getting overly defensive or hurt when people offer constructive feedback, it could be a sign of entitlement.

Why Does Entitlement Happen?

Entitlement can sometimes be a byproduct of wanting to feel special or unique. During adolescence, as you figure out who you are, it’s normal to crave validation. However, the rise of social media can add pressure to appear “successful” or “popular,” which sometimes fuels entitled thinking (Kross & Verduyn, 2018). Additionally, cultural factors, like messages in media, often promote self-focus and immediate gratification, which can also impact how entitled we feel.

Family environment and upbringing also play a role. For example, when parents give constant praise without boundaries or shield children from any failure, it can lead to entitlement (Twenge & Campbell, 2009). This isn’t to say praise is harmful, but balance is key.

The Downsides of Entitlement

While a small amount of entitlement can build confidence, too much can create challenges. Research shows that entitled attitudes are linked to difficulty in relationships, dissatisfaction with life, and even increased mental health struggles, like depression and anxiety (Grubbs & Exline, 2016). When we expect too much from others, we risk pushing people away and experiencing disappointment when things don’t go our way.

Entitlement can also hinder personal growth. By always expecting others to meet your needs, you may miss out on learning resilience, empathy, and problem-solving skills, which are essential for navigating adulthood.

How to Recognize and Reduce Entitlement

1. Practice Gratitude One of the simplest ways to combat entitlement is to cultivate gratitude. Instead of focusing on what you lack or what you deserve, take time each day to recognize things you’re grateful for. Research shows that practicing gratitude can increase happiness and reduce feelings of entitlement (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).

2. Work on Self-Awareness Reflect on your actions and motives. Ask yourself, “Am I doing this because I feel I deserve special treatment, or am I genuinely interested in contributing?” By becoming more aware of your thoughts and actions, you can shift toward a more balanced perspective.

3. Learn to Accept Criticism Learning to accept constructive criticism is a valuable skill that helps build resilience. Instead of feeling hurt or defensive, try to see criticism as an opportunity to grow and improve.

4. Build Empathy Practice thinking about others’ perspectives and needs. Ask yourself how your actions impact others. Empathy helps build meaningful relationships and reduces entitlement by reminding you that others have their own needs and challenges.

5. Develop a Growth Mindset Dr. Carol Dweck’s research on growth mindset suggests that people who focus on growth over fixed achievements are more likely to be successful and satisfied in life (Dweck, 2006). By focusing on effort and improvement rather than expecting outcomes, you can shift away from entitlement.

Recognizing entitlement can be challenging, especially when society often reinforces a “me-first” mentality. However, by practicing gratitude, empathy, and self-awareness, you can avoid the pitfalls of entitlement and develop stronger, healthier relationships with those around you. Remember, the path to true confidence and self-worth doesn’t come from expecting special treatment but from treating others and yourself with respect and understanding.

References

American Psychological Association. (2013). Developing Adolescents: A Reference for Professionals. American Psychological Association.
Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Random House.
Emmons, R. A., & McCullough, M. E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 84(2), 377-389.
Grubbs, J. B., & Exline, J. J. (2016). Trait entitlement as an emotion regulation strategy: A longitudinal study of its effects on perceived stress, depressive symptoms, and self-esteem. Journal of Research in Personality, 61, 27-34.
Kross, E., & Verduyn, P. (2018). Social media and well-being: Pitfalls, progress, and next steps. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 22(7), 558-560.
Twenge, J. M., & Campbell, W. K. (2009). The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement. Free Press.