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Helping Your Child Learn to Focus with ADHD

Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is a neurodevelopmental disorder that can make it challenging for children to focus on tasks, complete assignments, or stay organized. While ADHD presents unique challenges, parents can adopt effective strategies to help their child build focus and self-regulation skills. Below are research-backed techniques to support children with ADHD in learning how to focus.

1. Establish a Routine

Children with ADHD thrive on structure and predictability. Creating a daily schedule helps reduce distractions and provides clear expectations.

• Why it works: Routines help children anticipate what comes next, reducing anxiety and impulsivity (Pfeiffer, 2022).

• How to implement: Use visual schedules, timers, and reminders to organize daily activities, including homework, chores, and free time.

2. Break Tasks into Smaller Steps

Long or complex tasks can feel overwhelming for children with ADHD. Breaking assignments into smaller, manageable steps can increase focus and reduce frustration.

• Why it works: Research shows that smaller tasks are less intimidating and allow for frequent moments of accomplishment, reinforcing motivation (Barkley, 2021).

• How to implement: Use checklists or break down projects into timed segments, focusing on one step at a time.

3. Create a Distraction-Free Environment

An organized and distraction-free workspace can significantly improve a child’s ability to concentrate.

• Why it works: Reducing visual and auditory distractions supports sustained attention and task completion (Zentall, 2015).

• How to implement: Set up a dedicated workspace away from televisions, phones, or other distractions. Use noise-canceling headphones if needed.

4. Incorporate Physical Activity

Physical activity can help children with ADHD release pent-up energy and improve cognitive function.

• Why it works: Exercise has been shown to enhance attention and executive functioning in children with ADHD (Halperin et al., 2020).

• How to implement: Incorporate regular breaks for movement, such as stretching, jumping jacks, or a quick walk.

5. Use Positive Reinforcement

Children with ADHD respond well to positive reinforcement when they demonstrate desired behaviors.

• Why it works: Praise and rewards can encourage focus by associating effort with positive outcomes (Millichap, 2021).

• How to implement: Provide specific praise for focused behavior, such as, “Great job working on your math problems for 10 minutes without getting distracted!”

6. Teach Self-Regulation Techniques

Teaching mindfulness and self-regulation strategies can help children recognize when they are losing focus and how to redirect their attention.

• Why it works: Mindfulness has been shown to improve emotional regulation and attention span in children with ADHD (Zelazo & Lyons, 2012).

• How to implement: Practice deep breathing exercises, guided meditation, or focus games like “Mindful Minute.”

7. Leverage Technology Wisely

While excessive screen time can worsen focus issues, using technology designed to aid organization and focus can be beneficial.

• Why it works: Tools such as time management apps or gamified educational programs can enhance engagement (Radesky et al., 2020).

• How to implement: Use apps like Forest or Todoist to encourage task management and accountability.

8. Communicate with Educators

Collaboration with teachers can ensure consistent strategies across home and school environments.

• Why it works: A team-based approach provides continuity in behavioral strategies and accommodations (DuPaul & Stoner, 2014).

• How to implement: Share strategies that work at home and ask teachers for regular updates about your child’s progress.

Supporting a child with ADHD requires patience, consistency, and tailored strategies. By implementing routines, breaking down tasks, creating distraction-free environments, and fostering self-regulation, parents can help their child develop the focus and skills necessary for success. Open communication with educators and professionals can further enhance these efforts, ensuring a supportive and cohesive approach.

This article is written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years experience in the social work field. He currently serves as executive Director and outpatient behavioral health therapist of Southeast Kentucky Behavioral Health based out of London Kentucky. Mr. Collier may be reached by phone at 606-657-0532 extension 101 or by email at [email protected].

References

• Barkley, R. A. (2021). Taking Charge of ADHD: The Complete, Authoritative Guide for Parents. Guilford Press.

• DuPaul, G. J., & Stoner, G. (2014). ADHD in the Schools: Assessment and Intervention Strategies. Guilford Publications.

• Halperin, J. M., et al. (2020). Physical activity intervention improves sustained attention and executive functioning in children with ADHD. Journal of Attention Disorders, 24(10), 1408-1415.

• Millichap, J. G. (2021). Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder Handbook: A Physician’s Guide to ADHD. Springer.

• Pfeiffer, S. (2022). Routines for children with ADHD: Why they matter and how to build them. Psychology Today.

• Radesky, J., et al. (2020). Digital technology and ADHD: Benefits and risks. Pediatrics, 145(S2), S157-S162.

• Zentall, S. S. (2015). Environmental support for children with ADHD. Behavioral Interventions, 30(3), 153-164.

• Zelazo, P. D., & Lyons, K. E. (2012). Mindfulness training in childhood. Developmental Psychology, 48(5), 1023-1031.

What Does It Mean to Be Supportive of Your Wife?

Supporting your wife goes beyond just providing financial security or help with household chores; it is about being emotionally, mentally, and physically present in her life. Being supportive involves understanding her needs, respecting her individuality, and being an active participant in her personal growth. Here’s an exploration of what it truly means to be supportive of your wife.

1. Emotional Support

Emotional support is one of the most critical aspects of a healthy relationship. It means being there for your wife when she faces challenges or emotional distress, and offering empathy and understanding without judgment. According to Dr. John Gottman, an expert on marriage and relationships, emotional validation and active listening help strengthen the emotional bond between partners. When your wife shares her feelings, it’s essential to listen attentively, acknowledge her emotions, and validate her perspective. Even if you don’t have all the answers, your presence and understanding provide immense comfort.

2. Encouraging Her Personal Goals

A supportive partner is one who encourages their spouse’s personal development and goals. This means recognizing that your wife has aspirations—whether in her career, education, or hobbies—and showing genuine interest in those pursuits. Research has shown that couples who support each other’s ambitions tend to have stronger relationships. According to a study published in The Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, when partners actively engage in each other’s goals, they experience a greater sense of personal growth and satisfaction in their relationship (Feeney & Collins, 2015).

Supporting your wife’s goals involves more than just verbal encouragement. It can mean rearranging schedules to help her pursue education or a career, taking on additional household duties during busy periods, or simply being her biggest cheerleader when she embarks on new ventures.

3. Physical Presence and Shared Responsibilities

Being physically present in your wife’s life means taking an active role in shared responsibilities, from parenting to household chores. In modern partnerships, egalitarian relationships, where both partners share responsibilities equally, are increasingly important. Research conducted by Pew Research Center found that sharing household chores is one of the top factors contributing to a successful marriage (Pew, 2016). Helping with daily tasks not only eases your wife’s burden but also shows that you recognize her efforts and value teamwork in the relationship.

This presence also includes making time for activities that are important to her, such as family events or her personal hobbies, as well as supporting her needs for rest and self-care.

4. Respecting Her Individuality

Being supportive also means respecting your wife as an individual with her own identity, desires, and boundaries. This involves maintaining healthy communication, where both partners express their opinions and desires openly. In a supportive relationship, partners allow each other the freedom to explore their interests and have time apart without feeling threatened. According to clinical psychologist Dr. Harriet Lerner, it is crucial for both partners to maintain their individuality while building a shared life together (Lerner, 2017).

Recognizing that your wife is more than just a wife or mother, but also a unique person with dreams, fears, and interests, will strengthen your relationship by fostering mutual respect and trust.

5. Offering Unconditional Love

Support also means offering unconditional love, even during tough times. This can mean standing by your wife through moments of insecurity, hardship, or failure. Demonstrating your love regardless of circumstances creates a solid foundation of trust. Research by psychologist Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Therapy, highlights the importance of creating an emotionally secure bond through consistent affection, reassurance, and emotional safety (Johnson, 2008).

In essence, being supportive of your wife requires a combination of emotional, physical, and practical efforts. It means standing by her in times of difficulty, encouraging her growth and individuality, sharing responsibilities, and loving her unconditionally. When both partners are committed to supporting one another, the relationship becomes a partnership based on mutual respect, trust, and love.

This article has been written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Colllier has over 15 years in the social work field. He currently serves as director and provider through Southeaat Kentucky Behavioral Health based out of London Kentucky. He may be reached at 606-657-0532 extension 101 or by email at [email protected].

References

• Feeney, B. C., & Collins, N. L. (2015). A new look at social support: A theoretical perspective on thriving through relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 108(1), 123-145.

• Gottman, J. M., & Silver, N. (1999). The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work. New York: Three Rivers Press.

• Johnson, S. M. (2008). Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love. Little, Brown Spark.

• Lerner, H. (2017). The Dance of Anger: A Woman’s Guide to Changing the Patterns of Intimate Relationships. HarperCollins Publishers.

• Pew Research Center (2016). Americans see different expectations for men and women. Pew Research Center Social & Demographic Trends. Retrieved from Pew Research Center.