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Do I Act “Entitled”? A Teenager’s Perspective

In today’s world, the concept of “entitlement” is often associated with young people. But what does it really mean to be “entitled”? At its core, entitlement is a sense of deserving special treatment or privileges without necessarily earning them (Twenge & Campbell, 2009). While entitlement isn’t inherently bad, when unchecked, it can lead to negative behaviors and strained relationships. This article aims to help you, as a teenager, understand entitlement from your perspective and how it might impact your life.

 What is Entitlement?

Entitlement is a mindset where people believe they deserve certain rights or privileges without putting in effort or showing gratitude. It’s like expecting a reward without doing the work or expecting things to go your way just because you want them to. Psychologists Dr. Jean Twenge and Dr. W. Keith Campbell define it as “a stable and pervasive sense that one deserves more and is entitled to more than others” (Twenge & Campbell, 2009). This can sometimes show up as expecting praise for things that should be standard or demanding special treatment in different situations.

 Signs of Entitlement in Teenagers

According to psychologists, entitlement can sometimes develop naturally during teenage years as you seek more independence and explore self-identity (APA, 2013). Here are some common signs of entitlement to reflect on:

  1. Expecting Praise for Basic Responsibilities  If you often expect praise for everyday responsibilities, like finishing your homework or chores, this might be a sign of entitlement. While appreciation is important, basic responsibilities are usually expected without special recognition.
  2. Demanding Special Treatment  Entitlement can show up when you believe you should be treated differently just because of who you are. For instance, if you often feel frustrated when others don’t give you special privileges, it may be worth reflecting on why you feel that way.
  3. Ignoring Others’ Needs  Entitlement can lead to a focus on one’s own needs while overlooking others. If you frequently expect your family or friends to go out of their way for you, without offering support in return, it might be a sign of an entitled attitude.
  4. 4. Struggling with Criticism or Rejection  Those with entitled mindsets often have a hard time handling criticism or rejection. If you find yourself getting overly defensive or hurt when people offer constructive feedback, it could be a sign of entitlement.

 Why Does Entitlement Happen?

Entitlement can sometimes be a byproduct of wanting to feel special or unique. During adolescence, as you figure out who you are, it’s normal to crave validation. However, the rise of social media can add pressure to appear “successful” or “popular,” which sometimes fuels entitled thinking (Kross & Verduyn, 2018). Additionally, cultural factors, like messages in media, often promote self-focus and immediate gratification, which can also impact how entitled we feel.

Family environment and upbringing also play a role. For example, when parents give constant praise without boundaries or shield children from any failure, it can lead to entitlement (Twenge & Campbell, 2009). This isn’t to say praise is harmful, but balance is key.

 The Downsides of Entitlement

While a small amount of entitlement can build confidence, too much can create challenges. Research shows that entitled attitudes are linked to difficulty in relationships, dissatisfaction with life, and even increased mental health struggles, like depression and anxiety (Grubbs & Exline, 2016). When we expect too much from others, we risk pushing people away and experiencing disappointment when things don’t go our way.

Entitlement can also hinder personal growth. By always expecting others to meet your needs, you may miss out on learning resilience, empathy, and problem-solving skills, which are essential for navigating adulthood.

 How to Recognize and Reduce Entitlement

1. Practice Gratitude  One of the simplest ways to combat entitlement is to cultivate gratitude. Instead of focusing on what you lack or what you deserve, take time each day to recognize things you’re grateful for. Research shows that practicing gratitude can increase happiness and reduce feelings of entitlement (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).

2. Work on Self-Awareness     Reflect on your actions and motives. Ask yourself, “Am I doing this because I feel I deserve special treatment, or am I genuinely interested in contributing?” By becoming more aware of your thoughts and actions, you can shift toward a more balanced perspective.

3. Learn to Accept Criticism  Learning to accept constructive criticism is a valuable skill that helps build resilience. Instead of feeling hurt or defensive, try to see criticism as an opportunity to grow and improve.

4. Build Empathy     Practice thinking about others’ perspectives and needs. Ask yourself how your actions impact others. Empathy helps build meaningful relationships and reduces entitlement by reminding you that others have their own needs and challenges.

5. Develop a Growth Mindset  Dr. Carol Dweck’s research on growth mindset suggests that people who focus on growth over fixed achievements are more likely to be successful and satisfied in life (Dweck, 2006). By focusing on effort and improvement rather than expecting outcomes, you can shift away from entitlement.

Recognizing entitlement can be challenging, especially when society often reinforces a “me-first” mentality. However, by practicing gratitude, empathy, and self-awareness, you can avoid the pitfalls of entitlement and develop stronger, healthier relationships with those around you. Remember, the path to true confidence and self-worth doesn’t come from expecting special treatment but from treating others and yourself with respect and understanding.

This article has been written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years of experience in the social work field and is based in London Kentucky through Southeast Kentucky Behavioral Health, LLC. Mr. Collier may be reached by phone at (606) 657–0532 extension 101 or by email at [email protected].

 References

  • American Psychological Association. (2013). Developing Adolescents: A Reference for Professionals. American Psychological Association.
  • Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Random House.
  • Emmons, R. A., & McCullough, M. E. (2003). Counting blessings versus burdens: An experimental investigation of gratitude and subjective well-being in daily life. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 84(2), 377-389.
  • Grubbs, J. B., & Exline, J. J. (2016). Trait entitlement as an emotion regulation strategy: A longitudinal study of its effects on perceived stress, depressive symptoms, and self-esteem. Journal of Research in Personality, 61, 27-34.
  • Kross, E., & Verduyn, P. (2018). Social media and well-being: Pitfalls, progress, and next steps. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 22(7), 558-560.
  • Twenge, J. M., & Campbell, W. K. (2009). The Narcissism Epidemic: Living in the Age of Entitlement. Free Press.
Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder in Soldiers: Understanding, Effects, and Treatment

Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) is a mental health condition that has long affected soldiers and military personnel, often impacting their lives in profound ways. According to the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, up to 20% of veterans who served in Iraq and Afghanistan experience PTSD, underscoring the prevalence of this condition among soldiers who endure the harsh realities of combat and warfare. This article explores the causes, symptoms, and effects of PTSD in soldiers, examines various treatment options, and discusses emerging approaches to care.

Causes of PTSD in Soldiers

PTSD is generally triggered by exposure to traumatic events. For soldiers, combat is a primary source of trauma, involving life-threatening situations, witnessing injury or death, and enduring extreme physical and emotional stress. Studies have found that prolonged and repeated exposure to combat conditions increases the risk of PTSD, particularly if soldiers are subjected to high levels of intensity and frequency of traumatic events (American Psychological Association, 2020). Further risk factors include military rank, training, and support systems, with enlisted personnel and those lacking robust support networks being more vulnerable (Gradus, 2023).

The severity of PTSD symptoms often varies based on the intensity and nature of the traumatic events experienced. For instance, individuals who encounter close combat situations or who witness the death of comrades are more likely to develop severe PTSD symptoms (Hoge et al., 2004).

Symptoms of PTSD in Soldiers

PTSD symptoms are generally grouped into four categories:

  1. Intrusive Thoughts: Soldiers with PTSD often experience unwanted, distressing memories or flashbacks of traumatic events, causing them to relive the traumatic moment repeatedly.
  2. Avoidance: Avoiding situations, people, or places that remind the individual of the trauma is a common coping mechanism. Soldiers might withdraw from social settings or avoid seeking help.
  3. Negative Changes in Thought and Mood: Symptoms may include persistent negative emotions, distorted beliefs about oneself or others, and a feeling of detachment from family and friends.
  4. Hyperarousal and Reactivity: PTSD often causes soldiers to experience heightened anxiety, irritability, or hypervigilance. They may have difficulty sleeping and feel constantly on edge (National Institute of Mental Health, 2021).

In military contexts, PTSD can lead to significant challenges in social and family relationships, making reintegration into civilian life difficult. Soldiers may experience guilt over actions taken or not taken in combat, known as moral injury, which exacerbates the symptoms of PTSD (Litz et al., 2009).

Effects of PTSD on Soldiers’ Lives

PTSD can have a severe impact on veterans’ physical, mental, and emotional well-being, with potential long-term consequences that affect not only the individual but also their families and communities. Some of the major effects include:

  • Depression and Anxiety: Soldiers with PTSD often experience comorbid depression and anxiety, which can further complicate their recovery. The stress and trauma they face in combat environments have lasting effects that increase susceptibility to these conditions.
  • Substance Abuse: To cope with symptoms, many veterans turn to alcohol or drugs, which often results in dependency issues. Research has shown that PTSD and substance use disorders are closely linked in military populations, with soldiers attempting to self-medicate to alleviate PTSD symptoms (Seal et al., 2011).
  • Suicidal Ideation and Attempts: PTSD is a significant risk factor for suicide among veterans, with some studies indicating that the risk of suicide is higher among those with PTSD than the general population (Kang et al., 2015).
  • Difficulties in Employment and Social Reintegration: Veterans with PTSD may struggle to find and maintain stable employment due to symptoms such as hyperarousal, anxiety, and avoidance, impacting their social and economic well-being. Reintegration challenges, compounded by stigmatization of mental health issues, further isolate veterans from support systems that could aid in their recovery.

Treatment Options for PTSD in Soldiers

A wide range of treatment options is available for soldiers with PTSD. The goal of these treatments is not only to alleviate symptoms but to enable veterans to lead fulfilling lives after service. Treatments can be broadly categorized into:

  1. Psychotherapy: Psychotherapy, particularly Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), are among the most effective treatments for PTSD. CBT helps patients process and alter their trauma-related thoughts and behaviors, while EMDR helps in processing traumatic memories by stimulating the brain’s natural healing process (Watkins et al., 2018).
  2. Pharmacotherapy: Antidepressants like selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are commonly prescribed for PTSD, as they help manage symptoms of anxiety and depression. Medication, however, is often used alongside psychotherapy rather than as a standalone treatment (VA/DoD Clinical Practice Guideline, 2017).
  3. Group Therapy and Support Groups: These provide veterans with a community that understands their experiences, fostering a support system that can help them cope with the effects of trauma. Research indicates that group therapy is particularly beneficial for soldiers, as it promotes shared understanding and mutual support (Browne et al., 2016).
  4. Emerging Treatments: New therapies, such as virtual reality exposure therapy (VRET) and MDMA-assisted psychotherapy, have shown promising results. VRET immerses patients in a controlled, simulated environment to help them confront and process traumatic experiences. MDMA-assisted therapy, under clinical investigation, has demonstrated significant reductions in PTSD symptoms in early trials (Mithoefer et al., 2018).

Challenges in Addressing PTSD in Military Contexts

Despite available treatments, several challenges remain in addressing PTSD among soldiers. A significant barrier is stigma—many military personnel fear seeking help for PTSD due to concerns about appearing weak or unfit for duty. Additionally, the military structure can sometimes be resistant to mental health care initiatives, emphasizing resilience and self-reliance over seeking assistance. Efforts are ongoing to destigmatize PTSD and encourage open discussions about mental health in military settings (Hoge et al., 2004).

Accessibility of mental health services is another issue. Many veterans live in rural areas with limited access to specialized PTSD treatments. Telemedicine has been identified as a potential solution, offering remote therapy sessions that improve access for veterans in underserved areas (Rosen et al., 2017).

Conclusion

PTSD remains a significant mental health concern for soldiers, with far-reaching impacts on individuals, families, and communities. The military context poses unique challenges for both the onset and treatment of PTSD, underscoring the need for continued research, awareness, and innovation in treatment options. By addressing stigma and improving access to mental health care, society can better support veterans in managing PTSD and lead them toward healthier, more fulfilling lives post-service.

This article was written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years of experience in the Social Work field. He currently serves as the Executive Director and Outpatient provider for Southeast Kentucky Behavioral Health based out of London Kentucky. He may be reached at (606) 657-0532 extension 101 or by email at [email protected]

References

  • American Psychological Association. (2020). PTSD and the Military. Retrieved from APA.org.
  • Gradus, J. (2023). PTSD in Military Veterans. VA National Center for PTSD. Retrieved from PTSD.va.gov.
  • Hoge, C. W., et al. (2004). Combat Duty in Iraq and Afghanistan, Mental Health Problems, and Barriers to Care. The New England Journal of Medicine, 351(1), 13-22.
  • Kang, H. K., et al. (2015). Association of PTSD with increased suicide risk among veterans. Journal of Military Medicine, 180(9), 982-989.
  • Litz, B. T., et al. (2009). Moral injury and moral repair in war veterans: A preliminary model and intervention strategy. Clinical Psychology Review, 29(8), 695-706.
  • Mithoefer, M. C., et al. (2018). MDMA-assisted psychotherapy for PTSD: A breakthrough therapy. Journal of Psychopharmacology, 32(1), 4-12.
  • National Institute of Mental Health. (2021). Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder. Retrieved from NIMH.nih.gov.
  • Rosen, C. S., et al. (2017). Telemedicine for PTSD: A review of clinical evidence and practice. Telemedicine and e-Health, 23(3), 192-202.
  • Seal, K. H., et al. (2011). Substance use disorders in Iraq and Afghanistan veterans. Journal of Addiction Medicine, 5(1), 5-10.
  • VA/DoD Clinical Practice Guideline. (2017). Management of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Acute Stress Reaction. Department of Veterans Affairs.
Can Someone Change Their Love Language?

The concept of love languages was introduced by Dr. Gary Chapman in his 1992 book “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate.” Chapman’s theory posits that people express and experience love in one of five primary ways: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. These love languages help individuals and couples better understand each other’s emotional needs. A common question that arises is whether love languages are static or if they can change over time. In fact, research and anecdotal evidence suggest that a person’s love language can shift due to a variety of factors.

Understanding Love Languages

Chapman’s theory emphasizes that every individual has a primary love language—one that resonates the most in making them feel loved and appreciated. However, it’s important to recognize that love languages are not rigid personality traits but dynamic preferences that can evolve. According to Dr. Chapman, love languages are shaped by upbringing, cultural influences, and past experiences, but they are also adaptable as we navigate through life changes.

Can Love Languages Change?

Several factors can lead to shifts in a person’s love language over time:

  1. Life Transitions and Circumstances
    Major life events such as marriage, parenthood, career changes, or even personal crises can lead to a shift in how individuals prioritize love languages. For instance, someone whose primary love language used to be Words of Affirmation may find themselves valuing Acts of Service after becoming a parent. The practical help offered by a partner during stressful periods may feel like the most profound expression of love. Research suggests that significant life events and environmental contexts can shift what people value most in relationships (Neff & Karney, 2009).
  2. Changes in Relationship Dynamics
    As relationships evolve, partners may learn to express love in new ways or find new ways of feeling loved. A study by Horan & Booth-Butterfield (2013) found that partners in long-term relationships tend to adapt their communication styles and emotional expressions over time. In such cases, love languages can shift in response to changing relationship dynamics. For example, a person who previously valued Receiving Gifts may, over time, begin to prioritize Quality Time if the relationship has grown emotionally distant.
  3. Personal Growth and Emotional Maturity
    Emotional and psychological development can also influence a person’s love language. People evolve, and their emotional needs do too. An individual who has gone through therapy, for instance, may become more comfortable with Physical Touch after working through issues related to intimacy. Similarly, someone who has gained confidence or self-assurance might find that they now crave Words of Affirmation less than before. Research on emotional intelligence highlights that as people become more emotionally mature, their ways of connecting with others evolve (Schutte et al., 2001).

Adaptability and Communication in Relationships

It’s essential to note that just because a person’s love language may change doesn’t mean that love languages are irrelevant or overly fluid. The primary purpose of love languages is to enhance communication in relationships, and as such, being attuned to these shifts is crucial. When individuals notice their love language or their partner’s has changed, open communication is key to ensuring that both partners feel supported and loved.

According to Chapman (2010), couples should regularly check in with one another about their emotional needs, as this allows them to adapt and accommodate shifts in love languages. It’s not uncommon for couples to experience a shift in the ways they express love, especially as they mature and face new challenges together.

Conclusion

While a person’s love language may feel like an integral part of their identity, it’s clear that love languages can change over time. Whether influenced by life circumstances, relationship dynamics, or personal growth, individuals may find their emotional needs evolving. This is a natural part of human development. The key to sustaining healthy relationships lies in the ability to recognize and adapt to these changes through ongoing communication and mutual understanding.

This article has been written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. John has over 25 years experience in the Social Work Field. He currently serves as the Executive Director and Provider within Southeast Kentucky Behavioral Health based out of London Kentucky. He may be reached at (606) 657-0532 extension 101 or by email at [email protected].

References

Chapman, G. (1992). The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate. Northfield Publishing.
Chapman, G. (2010). The Five Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts. Northfield Publishing.
Horan, S. M., & Booth-Butterfield, M. (2013). Understanding the Communicative Aspects of Love: Interpersonal Communication in Romantic Relationships. Communication Quarterly, 61(5), 552-567.
Neff, L. A., & Karney, B. R. (2009). Stress and Reappraisal of Marital Interactions. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 97(3), 561–576.
Schutte, N. S., Malouff, J. M., Simunek, M., McKenley, J., & Hollander, S. (2001). Characteristic Emotional Intelligence and Emotional Well-Being. Cognition & Emotion, 16(6), 769-785.

Five Good Ways to Relax

Relaxation is essential for maintaining mental, emotional, and physical well-being. In today’s fast-paced world, finding ways to unwind can be challenging, but it is crucial for stress reduction, mental clarity, and overall health. This article explores five effective ways to relax, supported by research and expert advice.

1. Mindful Meditation

Mindful meditation is one of the most powerful techniques for relaxation. It involves focusing your attention on the present moment, often through controlled breathing, and acknowledging thoughts or sensations without judgment. Research has shown that meditation reduces stress, improves concentration, and fosters a sense of calm.

A study published in Psychiatry Research: Neuroimaging found that regular meditation can actually change the brain, increasing gray matter in areas associated with learning, memory, and emotional regulation (Hölzel et al., 2011). By taking just 10-20 minutes a day to practice mindfulness, individuals can experience significant reductions in anxiety and stress.

Mindfulness meditation can be practiced anywhere, whether it’s in a quiet room, at work, or even during a walk. Apps like Headspace and Calm have made it easier to get started with guided meditation sessions for beginners and experienced practitioners alike.

2. Exercise

Physical activity is a highly effective way to relax the body and mind. Whether it’s running, yoga, swimming, or even walking, exercise triggers the release of endorphins—natural chemicals in the brain that act as stress relievers. Exercise also reduces the body’s levels of stress hormones such as adrenaline and cortisol.

According to the American Psychological Association (APA), regular physical activity can significantly improve mood, reduce anxiety, and combat the negative effects of stress (APA, 2013). For instance, yoga, a form of exercise that combines physical movement with breathing techniques, has been shown to reduce stress and enhance overall well-being. A study published in the Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine found that yoga reduces cortisol levels and can lead to a reduction in perceived stress (Ross et al., 2013).

Engaging in just 30 minutes of physical activity a few times a week can have profound effects on relaxation and overall mental health.

3. Reading

Reading for pleasure is an excellent way to relax, especially when you get absorbed in a good book. When reading a novel or engaging content, the mind gets a break from daily worries and stressors. Research has shown that reading can reduce stress levels significantly in a short period.

A study from the University of Sussex found that reading for just six minutes can lower stress levels by up to 68%, making it a more effective stress-relief activity than listening to music, drinking tea, or taking a walk (Lewis, 2009). Reading transports the brain into a different world, giving your mind an opportunity to rest and rejuvenate.

Fiction, self-help, and even poetry are good genres to consider when choosing reading material for relaxation. The key is to choose something that interests and engages you.

4. Deep Breathing Exercises

Deep breathing is one of the simplest yet most effective relaxation techniques. By focusing on slow, deep breaths, the body’s parasympathetic nervous system is activated, which helps counteract the “fight or flight” stress response.

Dr. Herbert Benson, a pioneer in the field of mind-body medicine, developed a technique called the “relaxation response,” which emphasizes deep breathing as a way to induce a state of calm and reduce stress (Benson, 1975). This response involves sitting quietly, closing your eyes, and breathing deeply while repeating a word or phrase to yourself, creating a peaceful, meditative state.

One of the most common techniques is “4-7-8 breathing,” which involves inhaling for four seconds, holding the breath for seven seconds, and exhaling slowly for eight seconds. This method has been shown to slow heart rate and promote a sense of relaxation.

5. Spending Time in Nature

Spending time outdoors, whether walking in a park, hiking in the mountains, or simply sitting by a body of water, can have profound effects on relaxation and mental well-being. Nature exposure reduces stress, improves mood, and can even lower blood pressure.

A study published in Frontiers in Psychology found that spending as little as 20 minutes in a natural setting can significantly lower levels of the stress hormone cortisol (Hunter et al., 2019). The calming effect of nature, often referred to as “forest bathing” or “shinrin-yoku” in Japan, has been extensively studied for its ability to promote relaxation and improve mental health.

The sounds of nature, fresh air, and greenery provide a peaceful environment that helps reduce the mental and physical toll of stress. Even a short walk in a park or garden can be enough to reset your mind and reduce anxiety.

Conclusion

Relaxation is vital for maintaining a balanced and healthy lifestyle. By incorporating mindful meditation, regular exercise, reading, deep breathing exercises, and spending time in nature into your daily routine, you can significantly reduce stress and improve your overall well-being. Each of these methods is supported by scientific research and provides effective, accessible ways to unwind and recharge.

This article was written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years of experience in the social work field. He currently serves as the executive Director and practitioner at Southeast Kentucky Behavioral health based out of London, Kentucky. John may be reached at 606-657-0532 extension 101 or by email at John @SEKYBH.com.

References

• American Psychological Association (2013). Exercise Fuels Mental Health. Retrieved from APA.

• Benson, H. (1975). The Relaxation Response. William Morrow and Company.

• Hölzel, B. K., Carmody, J., Vangel, M., Congleton, C., Yerramsetti, S. M., Gard, T., & Lazar, S. W. (2011). Mindfulness practice leads to increases in regional brain gray matter density. Psychiatry Research: Neuroimaging, 191(1), 36-43.

• Hunter, M. R., Gillespie, B. W., & Chen, S. Y. P. (2019). Urban Nature Experiences Reduce Stress in the Context of Daily Life Based on Salivary Biomarkers. Frontiers in Psychology, 10, 722.

• Lewis, D. (2009). Galaxy Stress Research. Mindlab International, University of Sussex.

• Ross, A., Thomas, S. (2013). The Health Benefits of Yoga and Exercise: A Review of Comparison Studies. Journal of Alternative and Complementary Medicine, 16(1), 3-12.