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Tips for Staying Focused When You Have ADHD: A Guide for Teens

Introduction

If you’re a teen with ADHD (Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder), you might struggle with focusing on schoolwork, completing assignments, or staying attentive in class. ADHD can impact your ability to organize, manage time, and concentrate. But the good news is there are specific strategies you can use to help improve focus. In this guide, we’ll explore some tips and techniques that can help you succeed academically and personally, all supported by research.

1. Break Tasks into Smaller Steps

ADHD can make large tasks feel overwhelming, leading to procrastination or anxiety. Research suggests that breaking tasks into smaller, manageable steps can help make tasks feel more achievable and less intimidating (Barkley, 2015). For example, instead of trying to complete an entire project in one sitting, focus on completing just one part at a time.

Tip: Create a checklist of small tasks related to a big assignment. Checking off each step can give you a sense of progress and accomplishment.

2. Use a Timer for Focused Work Sessions

A technique called the Pomodoro Method can help increase focus by breaking study time into intervals (Cirillo, 2006). Set a timer for 25 minutes and work on a task until the timer goes off. Then, take a 5-minute break before starting the next session. This technique helps build a habit of staying focused in shorter bursts, which is easier to manage with ADHD.

Tip: Use a kitchen timer or a timer app on your phone to help stick to the intervals. Remember to reward yourself with a break after each work session!

3. Minimize Distractions in Your Study Environment

ADHD makes it challenging to ignore distractions, so it’s essential to create a study space with minimal distractions. Studies show that a quiet, organized environment can improve concentration for people with ADHD (Tuckman, Abry, & Smith, 2002). This means turning off your phone notifications, keeping only necessary items on your desk, and, if possible, studying in a quiet place.

Tip: If you find it hard to stay off your phone, consider using apps like Forest or Focus@Will, which are designed to help you focus by blocking distractions.

4. Set Realistic Goals and Prioritize Tasks

ADHD can make it tough to prioritize, so setting clear, realistic goals can help keep you on track. Studies suggest that prioritizing tasks can help reduce stress and improve time management skills for those with ADHD (Brown, 2013). Each day, make a to-do list and identify your top priorities. This will help you tackle the most important tasks first.

Tip: Use planners or digital tools like Google Keep or Trello to organize your tasks and track your progress.

5. Practice Mindfulness Techniques

Mindfulness can help improve focus and reduce impulsivity, which can be especially helpful for teens with ADHD (Zylowska et al., 2008). Mindfulness involves paying attention to the present moment without judgment. Practicing simple mindfulness exercises, such as deep breathing or short meditation sessions, can help you feel more centered and focused.

Tip: Try practicing deep breathing exercises before starting your homework or during study breaks to help clear your mind and refocus.

6. Take Regular Physical Activity Breaks

Physical activity has been shown to improve focus and cognitive function in individuals with ADHD (Medina et al., 2010). Exercise can help increase dopamine levels in the brain, which play a role in attention and focus. Taking short, active breaks, such as a walk or a quick workout, can help recharge your brain and prepare you for focused work.

Tip: When you start feeling restless or unfocused, take a five-minute walk or do some stretching to reset your energy.

7. Get Enough Sleep

Sleep plays a critical role in concentration and focus, especially for people with ADHD. Studies show that teens with ADHD often have disrupted sleep patterns, which can worsen symptoms (Owens, 2005). Aim for at least 8-9 hours of sleep each night to help you feel more alert and ready to focus.

Tip: Establish a consistent bedtime routine, avoid screens an hour before bed, and keep your bedroom as dark and quiet as possible to improve sleep quality.

8. Reward Yourself for Completing Tasks

Rewards can help motivate you to stay focused. Studies show that reward-based systems are effective for managing ADHD symptoms (Pelham et al., 2017). You can set up a reward system for yourself by choosing something you enjoy as a “treat” after you finish a task.

Tip: For example, after completing your homework, reward yourself with a favorite snack or time on your favorite video game.

Conclusion

Staying focused with ADHD can be challenging, but using these strategies can help you improve your focus and manage your time better. Remember, it’s okay to take small steps and make adjustments as you go. With practice, patience, and support, you can succeed both in school and in personal goals.

This article has been written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years experience in the Social Work field. He may be reached at 6066570532 ext 101 or by email at john@sekybh.com.

References

• Barkley, R. A. (2015). Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder: A handbook for diagnosis and treatment. Guilford Publications.

• Brown, T. E. (2013). A new understanding of ADHD in children and adults: Executive function impairments. Routledge.

• Cirillo, F. (2006). The Pomodoro Technique. FC Garage.

• Medina, J. A., Netto, T. L., Muszkat, M., & Batistela, M. E. (2010). Exercise impact on sustained attention of ADHD children. Health, 2(11), 1244-1250.

• Owens, J. A. (2005). The ADHD and sleep conundrum: A review. Journal of Developmental & Behavioral Pediatrics, 26(4), 312-322.

• Pelham, W. E., Fabiano, G. A., & Massetti, G. M. (2017). Evidence-based psychosocial treatments for attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder. Journal of Clinical Child & Adolescent Psychology, 34(3), 449-476.

• Tuckman, B. W., Abry, D. A., & Smith, D. R. (2002). Learning and motivation strategies for students with ADHD. Journal of Learning Disabilities, 35(4), 321-333.

• Zylowska, L., Ackerman, D. L., Yang, M. H., Futrell, J. L., Horton, N. L., Hale, T. S., & Smalley, S. L. (2008). Mindfulness meditation training in adults and adolescents with ADHD: A feasibility study. Journal of Attention Disorders, 11(6), 737-746.

Each of these strategies can be helpful on its own, but combining them may provide the most benefit. Give yourself grace as you try these new approaches, and keep experimenting to find what works best for you.

Healthy Forms of Validation: Recognizing and Seeking Supportive Affirmation

Validation is the process of understanding, affirming, and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, or experiences. Receiving healthy validation plays an essential role in building self-esteem, enhancing relationships, and promoting emotional resilience. However, it’s essential to recognize and seek out validation that is healthy and constructive. Here’s an overview of different types of validation and strategies for recognizing and pursuing them effectively.

Why Validation Matters

Validation from others reassures us that our feelings and experiences are understood and accepted. Research shows that receiving consistent, positive validation from supportive people can lead to improved mental health, stronger relationships, and a more secure sense of self (Linehan, 1993). According to self-determination theory, validation can also foster autonomy, competence, and relatedness, which are essential for psychological well-being (Ryan & Deci, 2000).

However, relying solely on external validation can be harmful, leading to dependency and reduced self-esteem. Instead, it’s beneficial to balance seeking validation from others with developing self-validation practices.

1. Types of Healthy Validation

  • Emotional Validation: Emotional validation involves acknowledging and accepting someone’s feelings without judgment. This can be as simple as listening attentively, empathizing, and affirming that the other person’s feelings are understandable. Emotional validation reinforces that feelings are valid and that it’s okay to feel what one feels (Linehan, 1993).
  • Validation of Effort and Progress: Praising effort rather than outcomes is a powerful form of validation that can reinforce persistence, self-compassion, and growth. Validating someone’s efforts, even if they fall short of success, promotes a growth mindset, where challenges are seen as opportunities to learn rather than sources of failure (Dweck, 2006).
  • Authentic Affirmations: Authentic affirmations recognize specific qualities, skills, or positive contributions that a person has shown. This validation should be specific rather than generic to reinforce self-worth in an honest, meaningful way (Wood et al., 2008).

2. Recognizing Healthy Validation

Healthy validation has distinct characteristics that make it different from unhealthy or superficial validation. Here’s how to identify it:

  • Respectful and Non-Judgmental: Healthy validation acknowledges your experiences without judgment or dismissal. Research shows that people who validate respectfully build stronger, more trusting relationships (Kross et al., 2014).
  • Specific and Genuine: Unlike generic praise, specific and genuine validation is grounded in real examples. For example, instead of saying “You’re smart,” healthy validation might sound like “I noticed how thoughtful you were when you solved that problem.” This specificity makes the affirmation more meaningful and believable (Wood et al., 2008).
  • Supportive but Not Enabling: Healthy validation encourages personal growth and resilience. It acknowledges your feelings and experiences without enabling unhelpful behaviors, promoting personal accountability and independence (Ryan & Deci, 2000).

3. How to Seek Out Healthy Validation

While it can be challenging to seek validation directly, there are strategies to create environments and relationships where it naturally occurs:

  • Communicate Openly: Sharing how you feel and what kind of support you need can help others understand your perspective and respond in validating ways. Research suggests that people who openly communicate their feelings are more likely to receive affirming responses, as clear communication reduces misunderstandings (Gottman, 2011).
  • Seek Supportive Relationships: Prioritize connections with people who genuinely care about your well-being and listen to you. Friendships and relationships that emphasize empathy, understanding, and honest feedback are more likely to offer healthy validation (Reis & Shaver, 1988).
  • Set Boundaries Around Validation-Seeking: Being mindful of how and when you seek validation can help prevent over-dependence on others. Seeking validation when genuinely needed, rather than as a habit, can help you distinguish between healthy support and dependency (Neff, 2003).

4. Building Self-Validation Skills

Relying on oneself for validation is a healthy, empowering practice that can lead to greater self-confidence and resilience:

  • Practice Self-Compassion: Self-compassion is a form of self-validation that involves treating yourself kindly, especially during challenging times. According to Dr. Kristin Neff, practicing self-compassion can help you become your own source of validation, reducing dependency on external sources (Neff, 2003).
  • Acknowledge Your Own Efforts: Celebrating your progress, no matter how small, reinforces self-validation. This practice helps you recognize your own efforts, fostering a positive self-image and reducing the need for constant external approval (Dweck, 2006).
  • Mindfulness and Journaling: Reflecting on your experiences, thoughts, and emotions through mindfulness or journaling can help you recognize your feelings and validate them internally. This process strengthens self-awareness and helps you rely less on external feedback (Kabat-Zinn, 2003).

Conclusion

Validation is a powerful element of healthy relationships and self-esteem, but it’s essential to seek out healthy, constructive forms of affirmation. By recognizing the qualities of healthy validation, seeking it from supportive people, and building self-validation skills, individuals can enhance their emotional resilience and improve their overall well-being.

This article has been written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years of experience in the social work field and is based in London Kentucky through Southeast Kentucky Behavioral Health, LLC. Mr. Collier may be reached by phone at (606) 657–0532 extension 101 or by email at john@sekybh.com.

References

  • Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Random House.
  • Gottman, J. M. (2011). The Science of Trust: Emotional Attunement for Couples. W.W. Norton & Company.
  • Kabat-Zinn, J. (2003). Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR). American Psychological Association.
  • Kross, E., et al. (2014). Social rejection and the brain. Trends in Cognitive Sciences, 18(1), 15-21.
  • Linehan, M. M. (1993). Cognitive-Behavioral Treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder. Guilford Press.
  • Neff, K. D. (2003). The development and validation of a scale to measure self-compassion. Self and Identity, 2(3), 223-250.
  • Reis, H. T., & Shaver, P. (1988). Intimacy as an interpersonal process. In Handbook of Personal Relationships, 367-389.
  • Ryan, R. M., & Deci, E. L. (2000). Self-determination theory and the facilitation of intrinsic motivation, social development, and well-being. American Psychologist, 55(1), 68-78.
  • Wood, A. M., et al. (2008). The role of gratitude in the development of social support, stress, and depression: Two longitudinal studies. Journal of Research in Personality, 42(4), 854-871.

This article provides a guide to recognizing and seeking healthy forms of validation based on research and psychological theories. Let me know if there’s any area you’d like to explore in more depth.

Why Do We Feel Guilty When We Take the Time to Relax?

In today’s fast-paced world, feelings of guilt often accompany moments of rest and relaxation. Many individuals experience anxiety and guilt when taking time for themselves, feeling as if they are neglecting responsibilities or failing to meet societal expectations of productivity. This article explores psychological, cultural, and societal reasons behind the guilt associated with relaxation and offers insights into how individuals can overcome this guilt to achieve a healthier work-life balance.

 The Psychological Basis of Guilt

Guilt, as a psychological experience, can be described as a negative emotional state that arises when one perceives that they have done something wrong or violated personal values. Research suggests that guilt often stems from deeply embedded societal and cultural norms, as well as from internalized expectations about productivity and self-worth (Tangney et al., 2007).

For instance, cognitive theories suggest that individuals may develop “should” statements, such as “I should be working,” which create a sense of duty to be constantly productive (Beck, 1976). This cognitive distortion leads to an emotional response that equates rest with irresponsibility or laziness, thus inducing guilt.

 Cultural and Societal Pressures

Cultural norms around productivity significantly contribute to feelings of guilt. In many cultures, particularly those with strong individualistic values, productivity is often equated with personal value (Hofstede, 1984). In these settings, people may feel that their self-worth is directly tied to their achievements, making it challenging to relax without feeling as though they are compromising their personal value.

Furthermore, the “hustle culture” promoted on social media often glorifies overworking and presents relaxation as a luxury for the unmotivated (Shapiro, 2019). This societal influence can lead people to internalize the belief that downtime is wasted time, thereby increasing the guilt associated with it.

The Role of Personal Values and Work Ethic

For many individuals, personal values and work ethic play a role in the experience of guilt during relaxation. Those who value hard work and efficiency may find it difficult to allow themselves time off without feeling that they are violating their core values (Grant, 2013). This guilt may be especially prominent in individuals with a strong sense of duty or responsibility toward others, such as parents, caregivers, or people in helping professions (Gould & Buss, 2015).

Coping Strategies

Overcoming guilt associated with relaxation requires reframing beliefs around productivity and self-care. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) techniques, for instance, can help individuals challenge irrational thoughts around relaxation and redefine it as a necessary component of overall well-being (Beck, 2011). Mindfulness practices also encourage people to stay present in the moment, allowing them to focus on relaxation without ruminating over undone tasks (Kabat-Zinn, 1990).

In addition, developing a structured schedule that includes dedicated time for rest can reduce feelings of guilt. Viewing relaxation as part of a balanced routine, rather than as a diversion from productivity, can help normalize it as a beneficial practice (Levine, 2000).

Feeling guilty about taking time to relax is a common experience that stems from psychological, cultural, and personal factors. Understanding the origins of this guilt and practicing techniques to reframe one’s mindset can help individuals find greater balance. Recognizing that relaxation is essential for well-being, rather than an indulgence, is a vital step in fostering a healthier relationship with oneself.

This article has been written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW. Mr. Collier has over 25 years of experience in the social work field. Mr. Collier currently serves as the Executive Director/President and Outpatient service provider through Southeast Kentucky Behavioral Health, LLC. Mr. Collier may be reached by phone at (606) 657–0532 extension 101 or by email at john@sekybh.com.

References

  • Beck, A. T. (1976). Cognitive Therapy and the Emotional Disorders. International Universities Press.
  • Beck, A. T. (2011). Cognitive Behavior Therapy: Basics and Beyond. Guilford Press.
  • Gould, L., & Buss, D. M. (2015). The Psychology of Moral Emotions. Academic Press.
  • Grant, A. M. (2013). Give and Take: Why Helping Others Drives Our Success. Penguin Books.
  • Hofstede, G. (1984). Culture’s Consequences: International Differences in Work-Related Values. Sage.
  • Kabat-Zinn, J. (1990). Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. Bantam.
  • Levine, R. (2000). A Geography of Time: The Temporal Misadventures of a Social Psychologist. Basic Books.
  • Shapiro, J. (2019). The paradox of hustle culture: How working nonstop became a status symbol. Journal of Media Psychology, 12(3), 210-217.
  • Tangney, J. P., Stuewig, J., & Mashek, D. J. (2007). Moral emotions and moral behavior. Annual Review of Psychology, 58, 345-372.
How to Practice Mindfulness and Meditation: A Guide for Teens

Being a teenager can be overwhelming. With schoolwork, relationships, extracurricular activities, and the pressure to fit in, it’s easy to feel stressed and distracted. Mindfulness and meditation are two practices that can help you manage these feelings and stay grounded. Learning how to practice mindfulness and meditation can improve your focus, help you manage emotions like anger and anxiety, and contribute to your overall well-being.

This guide will walk you through the basics of mindfulness and meditation, provide tips on how to get started, and explain why these practices can make such a big difference in your life.

What Is Mindfulness?

Mindfulness is the practice of paying attention to the present moment without judgment. It means focusing on what’s happening right now—your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations—without trying to change or escape from them (Kabat-Zinn, 1990). Being mindful helps you become more aware of your experiences and less reactive to stressful situations.

For teens, mindfulness can be a powerful tool. Whether you’re dealing with social pressure, academic stress, or family issues, practicing mindfulness helps you pause, take a step back, and observe your feelings before reacting impulsively.

What Is Meditation?

Meditation is a mental practice that helps you focus and calm your mind. It often involves focusing on your breath, a word (called a “mantra”), or an object while gently letting go of distractions. There are many types of meditation, but most aim to train your mind to be more present, peaceful, and aware (Torrente, 2019).

For teens, meditation can reduce stress and improve mental clarity. Regular meditation can help you feel more in control of your emotions and better equipped to handle life’s challenges.

Benefits of Mindfulness and Meditation for Teens

Practicing mindfulness and meditation has numerous benefits, especially during the turbulent teenage years. Here are some of the ways these practices can help you:

  1. Improved Focus and Concentration: Mindfulness helps train your brain to focus on one thing at a time. This skill is especially helpful for improving concentration on schoolwork (Galla, 2016).
  2. Better Emotional Regulation: Mindfulness allows you to notice your emotions without being overwhelmed by them. You’ll learn to pause and respond calmly rather than react impulsively (Sukhodolsky et al., 2017).
  3. Reduced Stress and Anxiety: Regular meditation can lower stress and anxiety levels by calming the mind and body, making you feel more relaxed and centered (Torrente, 2019).
  4. Enhanced Self-Awareness: Practicing mindfulness makes you more aware of your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. This can help you understand yourself better and make healthier decisions (Child Mind Institute, 2020).
  5. Improved Relationships: Being mindful can help you communicate better, listen more attentively, and respond thoughtfully, which can improve your relationships with friends and family (Friedman, 2020).

How to Practice Mindfulness as a Teen

You don’t need special equipment or a lot of time to start practicing mindfulness. Here are a few simple ways to begin:

  1. Mindful Breathing
  • Sit comfortably and focus on your breath.
  • Breathe in through your nose for a count of four, hold for four, and then exhale through your mouth for four.
  • As you breathe, pay attention to the sensation of the air moving in and out of your body.
  • If your mind starts to wander (which is normal), gently bring your focus back to your breath.
  • Do this for 3-5 minutes each day, gradually increasing the time as you get more comfortable.
  1. Body Scan
  • Lie down in a quiet space.
  • Close your eyes and start by focusing on your toes. Notice any sensations, tension, or discomfort.
  • Slowly move your focus up through your legs, torso, arms, and head, paying attention to how each part of your body feels.
  • If you find any tension, imagine breathing into that area and allowing it to relax.
  • This practice helps you become more aware of physical sensations and promotes relaxation.
  1. Mindful Eating
  • The next time you eat, try focusing on the experience of eating.
  • Notice the texture, taste, and smell of the food.
  • Chew slowly and savor each bite without distractions, like your phone or TV.
  • Practicing mindful eating can help you enjoy your food more and prevent overeating.
  1. Mindful Walking
  • While walking, focus on how your feet feel as they touch the ground.
  • This can be a great way to bring mindfulness into your daily routine, especially if you feel overwhelmed or stressed.
  • Notice the rhythm of your steps, the sounds around you, and the way the air feels on your skin.

How to Practice Meditation as a Teen

Meditation takes some practice, but it’s easy to start with just a few minutes a day. Here’s how to get started:

  1. Find a Quiet Place
  • Sit comfortably in a quiet space where you won’t be disturbed.
  • You can sit cross-legged on the floor or in a chair with your feet flat on the ground.
  1. Set a Timer
  • Start with 5 minutes and gradually work your way up to longer sessions as you get used to meditating.
  1. Focus on Your Breath
  • Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths.
  • Let your breath return to its natural rhythm and focus on each inhale and exhale.
  • If your mind starts to wander, gently bring your attention back to your breath.
  1. Let Go of Judgments
  • It’s normal for your mind to wander during meditation. Instead of getting frustrated, simply notice when it happens and return your focus to your breathing.
  • Meditation is a practice, and it’s okay if it doesn’t feel perfect right away.
  1. Try Guided Meditation
  • If you find it difficult to focus on your own, you can use a guided meditation app or video. These tools can help you stay focused and teach you different techniques.

How to Stay Consistent

Like any skill, mindfulness and meditation take time and practice. Here are some tips to help you stay consistent:

  • Start Small: Begin with just a few minutes each day and slowly increase the time as you become more comfortable.
  • Create a Routine: Try to practice mindfulness or meditation at the same time each day—whether it’s in the morning, after school, or before bed.
  • Be Patient: Don’t expect immediate results. Over time, you’ll notice the benefits of mindfulness and meditation in your everyday life.
  • Use Apps or Videos: There are many great apps like Headspace or Calm that offer guided meditations and mindfulness exercises for beginners.

Conclusion

Mindfulness and meditation are powerful tools that can help teens manage stress, improve focus, and enhance emotional well-being. By practicing these techniques regularly, you can develop the skills to handle life’s challenges with greater calm and clarity. Remember, it’s okay to start small and be patient with yourself. The more you practice, the more you’ll benefit from these simple but effective techniques.

This article has been written by John S. Collier, MSW, LCSW Mr. Collier has over 25 years of experience in the social work field and is based in London Kentucky through Southeast Kentucky Behavioral Health, LLC. Mr. Collier may be reached by phone at (606) 657–0532 extension 101 or by email at john@sekybh.com.

References

Child Mind Institute. (2020). How to Help Kids Manage Anger. https://childmind.org/article/how-to-help-kids-manage-anger

Friedman, H. S. (2020). The Longevity Project: Surprising Discoveries for Health and Long Life from the Landmark Eight-Decade Study. Penguin Books.

Galla, B. M. (2016). Mindfulness, academic achievement, and positive behavior among adolescents: The role of executive function. Journal of Educational Psychology, 108(3), 427-441.

Kabat-Zinn, J. (1990). Full Catastrophe Living: Using the Wisdom of Your Body and Mind to Face Stress, Pain, and Illness. Random House Publishing.

Sukhodolsky, D. G., et al. (2017). Cognitive-behavioral therapy for anger and aggression in children and adolescents. Child and Adolescent Psychiatric Clinics, 25(4), 623–634.

Torrente, R. (2019). Mindfulness for Teens: Proven Techniques to Reduce Stress, Manage Emotions, and Improve Focus. Rockridge Press.